Big problem, bear with me please.
My 3 years old DD is very aggressive towards her younger 1.3 sis. Hitting, pushing, screaming at her all the time, about pretty much anything. When I see it coming (in a rush to get there in time) I tell her to stop but she doesn't even seem to hear me, she's so into the act of hurting her sis by any means. Younger DD now started learning to hit without being provoked - automatically, just in defence. She's only learning words like NO and MINE, because that's all she gets from her older sis. The young one is such a happy bunny, so openly loves and adores her older sis... well, used to, anyway.. About two months ago we had a brief period when things started to miraculously improve. They were laughing together, playing together - it was so lovely to see, and so hopeful!. Now it's worse than ever, no idea why, no idea what to do. (She started pre-school part-time abt a month ago, maybe that is part of the problem?)
When younger sis was born, older dd took it very badly. We have a very strong bond, it's all 'mummy', I'm her best friend and she admits it daily: she doesn't want her baby sis around. Which I accept, it must be difficult for her, but, I add, sis is my baby too and I won't let her hurt her; she is here to stay, so they must work it out. I tried talking to her about it, asking her to stop it, time out... Can't say I'm much into various punishments, upon close observation they only bring resentment and mistrust, they don't seem to work in any ways for us. BUT my usual clever ways are failing me here. I have learned to find peaceful ways of dealing with my DD (took me a while) and would like to continue this, but here nothing seems to work. I read somewhere that I can't expect her to understand the situation, I must just prevent it - but in most cases I can't prevent it, it happens so fast! And how much longer do I have to watch her hurt her little sis? It really hurts me, especially that I know she's doing it because she is being hurt too! HELP, somebody! It really wears me down to see them hurt and being hurt so much! How do I help them?
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HELP! Forever Fighting Siblings (1 and 3)
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Rezimezi · 23/05/2013 23:39
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