Hi all,
Please can you help me resolve an argument? its about a past incident the ex keeps bringing up and using it as an example of me being an unfit mother.
I have a cat. She's a nervous little thing around people she doesn't know. She hides and refuses to come out. She doesn't like being stroked unless its by me or my (then) bf. she's even worse around children. She sees them and bolts behind the sofa.
Anyway, the ex's children came over for a weeks holiday (when we were together). The boy aged 7 knows not to bother her as she isn't interested in affection. The 3 year old though doesn't pay attention / understand when I tell her to leave the cat alone as she's scared. I try and tell her daily to stay away from the cat, that shes scared etc and might bite and i try to reinforce this often.
So, one day the 3 year old sees the cat is out from behind the sofa and the child goes over to see the cat who by this point is trapped into a corner. I tell the child nicely to stay away from the cat, that she doesn't like being stroked and she's scared. The child ignores me and keeps trying to strike the kitty. I tell her repeatedly to come away. Then I hear the cat hiss. (I've told the child before that a cat hissing means go away, that its a bit like a lion roaring) so I stand up to intervene (I'm pregnant and was tired so was sitting down). By the time I've taken the four steps over the room to move the cat the child has been scratched.
Now, the ex says the cat is bad and I'm a bad parent for having a dangerous cat and not sorting out the situation sooner. My opinion is that I told the child over and over again to stay away, she isn't stupid and being three understands a lot. I say she should have done as she was told after so many warnings and now the cat has scratched her she will have learnt a lesson and won't do it again. Am I really a bad '
mother'???
Thank you for your advice. I promise
I'm not a bad person.
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datingthedevil · 18/10/2012 09:22
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