My daughter is a bit of a complex charactor. She has speech and language difficulties and is a bit behind accademically. She's increadably willfull and stubborn and constantly seeks to follow her own agenda in what ever we're doing. She is also very deep and usually very loving, although not cuddly.
(Just trying to build up a picture)
She had such a good day today. She's home educated, and she'd done some excellent piano practice. I praised her to the hilt, when she managed it on her own. She was beaming and when I offered her a sticker for her chart, she said "lets do some more piano first" 
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We then played with lego, I helped her make a house, which she seemed to enjoy. Then she said to me "you know, I don't like you". I was quite gob smacked, so I said in a put on sad voice "Oh,no! That's really sad", half expecting her to say "I love you!", but she didn't. 
She just said, I only love Grandma, Daddy and uncle Steeve, etc, etc..... I said "Well, I love you anyway". She just said "yes, I know. But I just don't love you".
Her behavours can be a bit strange sometimes. She recently passed her first ballet exam but didn't want to show the certificate to anyone. She told me throw it away, despite being praised so highly for it. She also loves ballet.
What would you make of this? Does she really just dis like me? Did I handle it as well as I could have?
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Does my 6 year old daughter really not like me?
waybuloothebelt · 10/11/2011 14:50
Thank you Portofino. 
It just came as such a shock, as we'd had such a great day. If I'd told her off and she sid it, I'd just think "Oh, o.k".
I think I handles it in the right way, if it was that then. I told her I loved her very much.
I think you might be right. It would be good for her to have to take direction and a bit of disaplin from someone other than me.
We have talked about school recently and she did say she fancied trying it part time at first and if she could come back out if it was awful. 
Yes - Dad I alway feel a bit 
after I have done the school run, played 20 rounds of eye spy in the car, made her tea, checked homework, chatted about her day, filled school forms, found cash for whatever, accepted a party invitation, put her in the shower, brushed hair, made hot chocolate and finally sat down with a glass of wine - then in breezes DH. "Daddy, my daddy" - think the Railway Children here. Queue much tickling on the sofa and giggles. She'll learn
If she does find it awful, maybe she'll think it's not too bad with mummy after all. 
I will make sure she gives it a fair chance. Hopefully she'll make some friends and not want to leave them.
Hopefully when I'm getting regular breaks from her, I'll be much more fun to be around too. It really does take it out of you having a little one there 24/7. She's very demanding of my time and attention. It's hard to even have your own thoughts during the day.
Yes, I think I'm going to come back as a man next time. Either that, or a bit of role reversal.
Well, she's been lovely today. A little full on, but then that's usual unless she's ill. She's been saying lovely things too.
I've still phoned several schools though. I hink it'll be good for both of us.
She goes to Rainbows, (the one before Brownies). She only has one friend there. She doesn't make friends easily at all.
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