I realised today that when I'm handling DD1 (2.2) I kind of manipulate her more than tell her what to do. So if, for example, she wants to stay at the swings and it's time to go home, I'll say 'time to go home now' and when she inevitably complains and runs back to the swings I'll gasp and say 'look at this fantastic bird/leaf/stone!' in the other direction and coax her to where I want her to be. Or I'll throw the ball that way and have a race or something. Essentially I'm doing anything I can to avoid a tantrum.
Should I in fact be telling her what to do and insist she does what I say by getting cross etc? Is she ever going to understand that she does have to do what I say or am I going to have to use distraction methods for the rest of her life? Do you think it would better to put up with tantrums now for more control long term?
I have a 4 month old DD too so I wonder if I'm just trying to make my own life easier but not actually doing her any favours long-term.
Thanks in advance
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Should I be telling my toddler off more?
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plantsitter · 14/04/2011 15:34
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