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PARENTS NOT COPING WITH BOYS

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spurs12345 · 06/02/2011 00:26

I hope someone can help on this one. Basically I know a relative who isnt coping with her 2 boys. One is 9 and one is 6. The mum shouts and swears at them in the morning and drags them out to the car and literally throws them in. Boys are seen and heard to be crying. After the school-run mum brings the boys home and again is holding them from the back of their collars and is seen dragging the boys in the house. Mum is then seen to be leaving the house after about 1 hour and boys are seen from an upstairs window crying. When mum returns home she seems to have been shopping as she has carrier bags on her and she unloads them from her car. Probably wants to let off steam. Boys have big red hand marks on them. Anyway as for the dad he is a alcoholic. He verbally abuses the boys and mum. I have offered to help her out but she tells me that she doesnt need help and that she is coping fine. Have reported her to the NSPCC who contacted social services and social services assessed the situation and wrote up a report. Police have also been called numerous times as well. Reported her twice more to the NSPCC but nothing is getting done and we as her extended family are getting increasingly concerned for the boys safety and welfare. How can we get the authorities to take our concerns seriously?

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GypsyMoth · 06/02/2011 00:27

there has been an ss asessment? what was the outcome?

school? inform them perhaps

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spurs12345 · 06/02/2011 00:29

Outcome of the assessment was that everything was fine. But seriously its not as its still continuing. Social Services contacted the school as well. School said boys do have behaviour problems and interaction with other kids is bad. Social Services still think everything is ok.

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GypsyMoth · 06/02/2011 00:32

the police callout will generate more ss involvement....but what are police called out for??

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spurs12345 · 06/02/2011 10:49

domestic violence

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GypsyMoth · 06/02/2011 11:42

Suppose you have to put your trust in ss! I often worry they aren't ip to the job tho.

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3littlefrogs · 06/02/2011 11:45

NSPCC

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happygolucky0 · 06/02/2011 20:19

It is all about proving it any chance you can take pics of the hand marks.

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slipperandpjsmum · 07/02/2011 21:22

I am a CP social worker. EVERYTIME your Mum sees something contact children's services.They can only go off what people ring in. I would not contact the school the social workers will do that. There may be some form of support in place. Although with the amount of support services being taken by the cut backs its hard to find any support for families anymore!

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MammyG · 07/02/2011 22:14

He who shouts loudest gets heard!! Keep ringing, keep complaining and keep warning them that you are documenting all of this and are concerned about their lack of action!

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