Is this normal for a nursery?

[Roo83]

Hi all, my ds (2.7) has been off nursery for a few weeks due to snow,then xmas break and then drs appointments (he only goes 2 mornings a week). When i dropped him off this morning he was so excited as we walked in and they had a dinosaur playset all out ready for them to play with-he is going through a dinosaur stage at the moment! Anyway, he was whisked through that room (much to his disappointment) and into a small room which he used to be in when he first started. Apparently they have had a lot of new starters this term and so he is back in the 'littlies' room to accomodate this. They are not baby's as such as they dont take them before 2 but most now in this room aren't potty trained and dont verbalise much, he's almost 3 and big for his age with good communication. His special friend from nursery is 3 already so is in the bigger room. To top it off he came home from nursery today with a huge scratch on his neck-it looks horrendous-3 long scratch marks,all of which have drawn blood. I'm a sahm so the only reason he goes to nursery is to socialise,learn to share etc. my first instinct is to pull him out and find another nursery,not because of the scratch but because of other things mentioned. Am I being over the top? Would anyone else be upset about this or is it just pfb syndrome?!

[jade80]

How long was he in the older room before moving back? It seems unfair on him and certainly not something my nursery would do. Perhaps explain to them as you have here and see if they can find a way round this- perhaps it would be possible to change days if they are much busier some days but could acommodate him in the older room? I know at my nursery they are quieter monday and friday for example. May be possible as you are at home?

[jade80]

accommodate :)
Oh and re. scratch mark, these things do happen at nursery, if it's not a regular thing and they filled in all the forms and told you about it then don't worry too much about it :)

[gingercat12]

I do not know whether it is normal for a nursery, but my DS who is the same as yours would be heartbroken.

[cookielove]

So was had he moved up the older room already and then pushed back down, or were you told at the start of this term he would be in that room?

If you had been previously told he would be moving up then he should of been in that room, if your assuming he would have moved up without confirmation i don't think the nursery would be at fault.

I would mention to the staff in his room about his dinosaur addiction, although they probably already know, just so they can plan activites for him e.t.c

[Roo83]

He has been in the older room since September-I didn't ask for any clarification but just assumed he would stay in that room now until he moved up again. Feel really sad for him,but don't want to cause a fuss if others think I'm being a bit precious with him.

[jade80]

I think it's unreasonable of them to move him back after that long, definitely bring it up with them. Is changing days as I mentioned above a possibility? I don't think you're being precious about the room change but I wouldn't worry about the scratch.

[littleducks]

I would not have been happy about him moving 'down' a room, away from his friends without any discussion with you.

I think you need to discuss it with them and if necessary pull him out, i know my kids would really feel like they were being punished being made to go back to a room they had left while their friends stayed put

[cookielove]

Ok, if he had been in the room since September there is absolutely no way he should have been moved back, regardless of new starters as he was there first he should not have been moved.
The nurseries shouldn't be offering places to children and then bumping down the children already there, especially without talking to you, or even informing you.

This is not common practice in nurseries, i would speak to the manager as soon as possible and ask for your son to be moved back to his room. It must be confusing and upsetting for him to chop and change, has he formed friendships and relationships and it is unfair on him, placing him in a new/old room to repeat this process.

I also wouldn't be to concerned over the scratch, scratches happen quickly, and do often draw blood, (and sometimes the children do it to themselves)

[Roo83]

Good idea about changing days but he and dd have some other groups we go to on different days that are paid up until the end of the term so wouldn't be able to change until next term...by which time he may have moved up anyway. Glad you all seem in agreement with me that it's unfair though-I'll speak to them Wednesday and see if we can resolve it. Thanks for your quick replies

[DirtyMartini]

Agree with what everyone else has said but wanted to post as I am feeling hormonal and sorry for your ds missing out on dinosaurs & his pals! Please pass along an extra cuddle of sympathy from all of us . And good luck sorting it out with the nursery.