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Opinions on my reaction to domestic violence incident at neighbours

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reikizen Fri 03-Jul-09 16:20:15

I just wondered if anyone would have done anything else in this situation. I have a neighbour with a 12 month old boy who I have a friendly but just neighbourly relationship with but I have been worried about her in the past because when I went round once the house smelled of skunk and I see lots of young lads in boy racer cars hanging around at all hours/dropping things through the door etc. (I know this is not illegal but you know what I mean!!) Anyway, today as I was coming home from the school run I heard her screaming and crying for him to get off and leave the house, a man shouting and the baby crying so I went to knock on the door and it all went silent. So I just shouted up 'are you okay?' she said yes, so I said, 'you know where I am if you need me' and left it at that. Would you have done anything differently. I'm now worried he's an axe wielding maniac who will come to wreak revenge on me and my family. hmm

nickschick Fri 03-Jul-09 16:25:42

Its always very difficult and very hard to judge on what you should do.

On my street theres a young family constantly at logger heads and one day 2 of her children were already at my house when the trouble started - I heard it getting worse and looked out of the window to see them squaring up to each other with her holding the little one shock I dashed out and just shouted at her to give me the baby and take her trouble indoors....I then had 3 extra children for a few hours until her sister came to collect them.

Neighbours have reported her to the SS but it still goes on .....me? I just take the kids in when they are scared.

nickschick Fri 03-Jul-09 16:26:43

I say her bcos she is generally the one who 'starts' the trouble.

dittany Fri 03-Jul-09 16:30:33

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nickschick Fri 03-Jul-09 16:34:52

no she was threatening him .....shed just thrown her shoes at her mils window and scratched her fils car all holding the baby....

sarah293 Fri 03-Jul-09 16:37:54

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nickschick Fri 03-Jul-09 16:39:58

People do call the police but then they get a torrent of abuse from her.

dittany Fri 03-Jul-09 16:49:04

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nickschick Fri 03-Jul-09 16:54:14

They are about the same height and weight although im not sure why I am being cross examined??

nickschick Fri 03-Jul-09 16:54:47

And i believe it was the baby she was threatening him with.....

queenrollo Fri 03-Jul-09 17:23:24

my old next door neighbour most certainly threatened and indeed hit her partner while holding a 10 month old child under one arm. I got out there pretty sharp and removed the child from her. They also wrestled the pushchair one day with the child in it and once again i was up the top of the drive and took the child off them.

The night i was at my best friends when her then partner tried to kill her i knocked on every door on the street begging for help and no-one responded. They all came out once he'd been nicked giving it the 'concerned friend' malarkey hmm angry

I've intervened in DV situations on the street and got no thanks for it from either party.....if it was my neighbours i couldn't turn a blind eye to it....especially if there were children involved.

dollyshoes Sat 04-Jul-09 14:49:43

I used to often wish that my neighbours would ring the police when things were kicking off at my house.
Instead i once overheard them discussing who they thought caused it all.
They assumed it was me.

I wouldve called the police .

nickschick Sun 05-Jul-09 11:30:00

On the occasions the police have been called the next day she tries to imitidate anyone she thinks may have called them.

At christmas the police were called and both of them ended up arrested in full view of her dc she bot the police officer and threw her shoes and clothes at him.

Its really a very awkward situation.

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