i split with my ex over 4 years ago and divorced him 31/2 years ago. at the time my kids were placed on child in need register (DV to children)but all was sorted and then ex moved away from area and case closed. a few months ago ex moved back into area, his family are all nearby. now the social service are back involved. because he says we are getting back together. my kids are nearly all grown up, 12,16,18 and 20, and the 20 and 16 yo live with him.the other two have no cintact 18 yo his choice, 12yo due to fathers violence towards him.their choice not mine and ss don't seem to worry. but they are doing an indepth assessment into me because, even through i've shown no desire ever, they think i will get back with him. god i can't stand the man but how do i convince them, whatever i say they don't seem to believe and constantly question me. we are now having a new child in need meeting to assess whether i recognise abuse...what..i tried for years to get out of my marriage, even going to a refuge but with no support from anywhere, and now i've been single for over 4 years why would i want to get back with him? but whilst he is making these claims even if completely against anything i want. does anyone have any tips?
as it is i could have done with ss support as youngest DS has major mental health issues due to fathers behaviour, CAMHs are involved but he is very violent destructive towards me, but here ss are not interested...arrrrgghhh!
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mummysmad68 · 03/07/2009 12:36
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