Any social workers about?

[Hther]

need advice on my other thread, am confused, and not sleeping because of it all. Can anyone help please

[ShinyPinkShoes]

Where is your other thread?
Can you link to it?

[Hther]

can't do links, its in other subjects, called please help, had visit from childrens social servces

or something like that

[Hther]

can't do links, its in other subjects, called please help, had visit from childrens social servces

or something like that

[Hther]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/other_subjects/770420-please-help-i-had-children-39-s-social-services-round

[Hther]

oh, ther we go!

[jeminthedark]

As far as I know, as part of an Initial Assessment, school, HV etc are contacted as a matter of course.

The thinfg is it's an INITIAL assessment- that does not suggest any child protection concerns,

SW's have to complete their assessment within 7 days- what they SHOULD do is help plug you into any support services you may find useful- did the SW discuss this with you? If not, give thenm a ring, you're allowed to!!

I know it's scary, but please ask if they havn't explained themselves, they are supposed to, y'know, and it's bad practice to keep you in the dark.

Working with parents is supposed to be one of the cornerstones of practise with SWs.

Ring 'em up, try to overcome your nerves, say you don't ubnderstand what the procedure etc is- they HAVE to explain what's going on.

Hope you are ok, sorry you're feeling low. Hopefully they may come up with something USEFUL for you? (hopeful) x

[Hther]

they mentioned homestart and rang up today and are gettinga referral form from them. They said lovely thinsg about me, about what i'm doing with them, about how well bonded, and i was happier then, but then rang and said there were more sensitive issues thy ad heard about to discuss with me when children weren't around and i was horrified by what i heard then. It was nthing bad about me, and i don't know what they referring to, after i explained a similar incident, only slihgtly similar and nowehere near as bad, they said things seemed a bit clearer, but really i don't know what they meant

[ShinyPinkShoes]

I have left a reply for you on your other thread-hope it helps to reassure you a bit

[jeminthedark]

Well perhaps you should take it at face value- that they want to discuss things that are better done when the kids aren't there?

Thing is, it sounds like they are trying to find support services for you, not critisize you, which is positive yes? Lots of positives are mentioned, which would indicate they know you are doing a good job in difficult circumstances, yes?

You seem to recognise you are struggling- nothing to be ashamed of there! Why do you think parenting forums like MN are so popular?!

Bringing up children is bloody hard work, as parents we all recognise that- there is nothing in what you have said that would indicate you have anything to worry about, although obviously it IS worrying when you have to deal with SWrs.

The more sensitive issues- do you know what they are referring to?

Am off to bed now (sad I know, but knackered).But I will catch up in the morning, hope this has helped.

[gothicmama]

they are gathering information when did theinitial assessement start, have they should go through the initial assessment with you and explain ythe concerns ask if youa are uncertain if anything.