I take my neighbours kids to school and I cant stand their mum

[nikkisherri]

I always saw this woman at the bus stop in the mornings with her kids and they go to the same school as my dauther & so I felt kind of bad driving past, I offered to taketo school everyday , the other day I was ill and she came round with a BIG ATTITUDE will I be taking them tomorrow etc.

She never speaks, smiles or says hello unless she wants something either.

I am thinking she should get back on that BUS and do it her self again!

So who thinks they would continue taking her kids to school? I have nothing against them... but her ,, and she has a beard which I think is very disconcerting

[nikkisherri]

ok .. maybe women with beards are a good thing

[SleepyJess]

LOL Nikki..well irrespective of the beard, I think you should at least point out to her that you can't very well help being ill and unable to take the kids to school. Everyone is unwell sometimes..and she can't expect your alternative arrangements to automatically include her kids.

I suppose, since you offered voluntarily, in the beginning, you are sort of morally, obligated under normal circs.... but obviously, you don't have to do it. If you don't want to do it anymore, you'd probably have to tell her, upfront, 'I'm sorry, I not willing to do it anymore because...' (even if the reason is 'because I don't like your attitude'). But maybe she is depressed/ill or something.. and you taking the kids is a big help to her.. but wouldn't hurt her to be a bit politer.

Or you could make up a white lie why you can't do it anymore.. but that might be abit difficult if you are still driving yours to school daily.

Sorry not to help much!

SJ x

[nikkisherri]

Thankyou sleepyjess I'm guessing you dont have a beard which is why you replied

umm I know I'm obligate but she is such an ungrateful moo thats what annoys me.. Its almost like she just expects it without any thanks or effort made on her part.

but I guess I will keep on biting that lip

[SleepyJess]

LOL.. well don't tell anyone... but last month I plucked a long dark hair out of my chin and was MOST alarmed!!! So this time next year I may be a bearded wonder like your 'friend'! ( re 'friend'!)

SJ x

PS No disrecpect to MNers.. or anyone.. with anwanted facial hair is intended!!

[stitch]

i think you should tell her outright how ungrateful she is being. and since you are ill, perhaps she should take your kids to school. on the bus if necessary.
cow that she is
my neighbours take my son to school. and i am eternally grateful too them for doing it. i would never dream of being anything but good towards them...

[ggglimpopo]

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[JanH]

gggl, get back to work!

ns, you did make me laugh about the beard . I agree that she doesn't deserve the lifts but think it might be a bit hard to wriggle out of...

[ggglimpopo]

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[JanH]

Awwww - I can just imagine the guilty expression and furtive behaviour!

I wish it was possible to block access to MN (and MSN) somehow but without throwing the mouse away so we could still w*rk...

[Chandra]

I will be honest to her, you are doing it AS A FAVOUR is not a job fgs. She may have had a bad day or other problems but you are not her friend, her family or anybody who should feel responsible for her needs. It's not that the children are going to that school because you offered to take them, I think that a bad attitude canceals any bonna fide arrangement. Sorry.

PS. and I have a beard as big as Santa Claus'

[Pinotmum]

Well as a bearded woman I would try to avoid the school gate at any cost even if that means getting a sick person out of bed I would say that circumstances have altered and you won't be able to do the favour much longer e.g after half term. That way she can get used to the idea. Then I would leave earlier and miss her at the bus stop. Some people take liberties regardless of facial hair prolems - I have known both types the hairy and the smooth

[nikkisherri]

ahhh thankyou! Now I have the word that it's ok to ditch my obligation on account of her extreme ungrateful behaviour (and unwanted facial hair) I may well do that. Or we could strike a deal a shave for a lift

[WideWebWitch]

Er, no, I wouldn't carry on taking her kids to school, no way! Ha ha at all the beard comments but bearded or not, just tell her you're going to stop and stop doing it. Blimey, she should be asking how she can thank you and would you like her to make you some soup when you're ill, not having a go at you. What a witch. People like this just don't deserve favours imo. A woman asked me for a favour last week and said in the same breath 'but I won't reciprocate, ever.' Wtf? I said no.

[WideWebWitch]

Mind you, I was a coward, said yes and then thought hang on a minute and called her back to say no!

[ggglimpopo]

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[nikkisherri]

wickedwaterwitch well I thought my woman was rude but your one obviously knows no boundaries how can she ask you a favour and actually say dont expect any back !? How very very rude!
Now you're really adding fuel to the fire! Damn it feel like going round this min and giving her the bus timetable, She'll back on the bus tomorrow and I hope it rains too ,,

Actually just 1 thing stops me , the kids, I guess its not their fault is it but just 1 more word out of place from her and ..grrrrr

[WideWebWitch]

ha ha gggl and nikkisherri, sorry if I wound you up into a frenzy!

[sandycheeks]

People like this woman relly wind me up. I started a (little band) i.e brass band session for children under 11 years old 3 years ago, and we meet once a week. I do it for free, and the children are provided with donated instruments and don't pay anything. We started with three members and now have close to 20. I have tried to find something for everyone to play but by now I am struggling to find small enough instruments.
In the last practice a mother of a child whom I have not seen since Christmas had a go at me in front of the other children. She was angry because her dd had not recieved an instrument yet. I was really and .
I remaind quite calm and reminded her that i order to recieve an instrument you have to display enough commitment. She said the reason that her dd had not been in practice was because she (mother) had been busy with hr computer course and study. Does she not realize that I have a busy life too the ungrateful moo!
I hope to god she's not a MN'er

[nikkisherri]

Sandycheeks I think I would have been inclined to tell that woman you would get her an instrument just so she could stick it somewhere the sun doesn't ...
I think some people just miss the point completely.
Great idea I would love it if there was a free class for my daughter to attend to play an instrument .. as long as it was far away from me ( done the recorder years )
So did she have a beard this woman.. i'll bet she did.

[Pinotmum]

PMSL

[Pinotmum]

I'd offer her a couple of spoons next time or a wobble board might be better if she has a beard, then she can do Rolf Harris appearances

[nikkisherri]

Rolf Harris Impression

[AngelCakeUmm]

I would tell this ungrateful "Bearded" witch to go and take a long hike.......

How god damn rude!!

Go knock on her door at once and hand her that bus timetable

[milward]

Don't take her kids to school - tell her that you're not upto it. Wonder if she'll offer you any help?? Once I looked after a friends child for nearly 12 hours!! She brought her round in the school hols in the morning at 8 as agreed & just said that she wouldn't be able to collect until 7.30pm - instead of 4. What could I say - I only had my 3 dds to look after as well plus preg & tired. She's never offered me any help in return. She rang the other day asking for me to look after her child after school on the day she knows I have after school activities with my dds & have lots of organisation to do to get everyone out of the house on time. Luckily I have a doctors appointment that afternoon so could do this favour for her.

[PrettyCandles]

Ah, not quite meaning to put a damper on this very funny thread, but perhaps the beard is a sign of a hormone imbalance and the poor woman therefore lives with permanent PMT? So maybe you should cut her a leeetle bit of slack and give her another chance? Certainly tell her how offended and hurt you were by her behaviour though!