advice desperately needed!

[ClaireC21]

Im 21 and have just found out that i am about 8 weeks gone. My partner and I have not been together very long but want to keep the baby. Im petrified of what my parents will say as they are very prim and proper! can anyone give me a bit of advice on how to break the news to them please?

[Bozza]

Claire - obviously a difficult position for you. I'm sure it will all work out in the end but in the mean time.... Not much advice really - although even as a respectably married 27 year old I was a bit embarassed telling my parents....

Do you live at home still? What do your parents think of your partner? Would you tell them together or just you on your own?

Best of luck with everything.

[threeangels]

Hello ClairC21 - Congratulations first of all. I to am exactly 8 wks today. My persoanl opinion is that I would tell your parents together. This way they know right at that point from the both of you that you are for this pregnancy together. If you love your partner tell them that you both love each other and want to make this new a baby a part of your family as well as your partners family. Just show your parents that you are both supporting each other. Hope this helps.

[kaz33]

Well first bit of advice is probably not to tell them yet - wait until you hit 12 weeks and have your first scan. A lot of pregnancies end in miscarriage and you would not want to tell them and then have to recant.

Also after your first scan you will have a picture to show them - which hopefully will send your mum into a gooey heap.

When you tell them I would suggest that you think about all the practalities ( as far as your circumstances permit ) and let them know by the way you talk about it that you have really thought about the consquences of your actions.

Have you both really thought about the practicalities. This is a huge commitment which will put your newly formed relationship through a huge pressure. It does that even to the strongest relationships where babies are desperately wanted. It might be useful before you speak to your parents for you both to speak to an outsider about what you are letting yourself in for. I am sure you local GP could point you in the right direction.

Do you have any friends with kids or are you the first?

Remember that you are potentially asking a lot of your parents - even though you will take the brunt they no doubt will be there to support, especially considering your relatively young age.

Good luck in any event.

[threeangels]

I agree with Kaz33 about waiting till your further along. When reality is staring them right in the face it might help blow thiongs over. This will be their precious grandchild which might take a little bit to sink in. I'm sure it will in no time.