Why am I so tearful?

[strawberry]

Don't know where to start really. I'm very tearful lately - not sure why exactly.

I'm 7.5 months pg so guess quite hormonal. I have a fab ds who is nearly 3 and dh is pretty good on the whole.

I am really worried about the new baby, mainly how I will cope. Dh has a great new job which he's really excited about but means he's away from home a lot. I think I'm a bit jealous. I have this feeling that something is not quite right but of course the more I analyse stuff the more paranoid I feel. At least when the baby is here, there won't be time to dwell on things. Just feeling a bit lonely and fed-up. Feel like I should pull myself together. Mum said plenty of people are a lot worse off than I am which is right. So why do I feel like this?

[starlover]

hi

like you say, it is more than likely hormonal... you're going to have some big changes happening soon, and it'll take time to get used to it.
Are you ok with your DH being away from home?
Is there anything specific that you feel isn't "quite right"? or is it just one of those horrible niggling feelings that you can't quite pin down?

There isn't really anything I can say to stop you worrying I don't think. But you shouldn't just have to pull yourself together... it doesn't work like that.
Yes, there are people worse off than you, but that doesn't mean that your feelings aren't valid! Don't worry about whether or not you "should" feel like you do... just focus on how you can deal with it. You can't choose how you feel after all!

I am sure that your new baby will be lovely, and totally fine... and you WILL be able to cope when baby comes along. Do you have a good support network around you? friends, family etc?

[strawberry]

It's more an irrational worry with DH I think. New job, new people and being away. He doesn't want to have sex because of the baby although we did when pg last time.

Mum is some distance away and don't feel able to talk to anyone because they're all busy with own families. Feel a bit unsupported at the moment to be honest.

[starlover]

well, if you ever need to chat... there's always someone on here!
not quite the same as having someone in real life... but i've found MN a lifesaver on more than one occasion!

sometimes you just need to have a big long rant about stuff and get it all out of your system. When you write everything down that's worrying you then it often seems better

[strawberry]

So it's 8pm, Friday night, and dh is having drinks with 'work' people again. I'm so fed up with it all...

[strawberry]

Anyone? Need a shoulder to cry on...

[beansontoast]

helloo weepy one...you let it all out

[strawberry]

Hello beans on toast - I was beginning to think even MN had deserted me. I am probably going to bed now anyway as v. tired and ds will be up early no doubt.

[ionesmum]

Poor you. It sounds like you have a lot on atm - being heavily p/g makes you so tired, without the hormones, and then you've got changes to cope with in terms of dh's job, too. Don't try to analyse it, just have a good old boo then going and do something you enjoy for a bit. Yes, you rmum is right, but it's not very helpful when you are feeling upset, is it? FWIW it will get better esp. once no2 arrives - ime it's so much easier the second time around.