Wedding cash - how much do people usually give?

[Podrick]

Out of curiosity, what would you say is a normal amount to give in cash/vouchers at a wedding for:

a) a close friend
b) a not so close friend/ colleague
c) if you have only been invited to the evening reception?!!

Mostly I have not much left after paying for accommodation/travel/outfits but I would hate to seem miserly!

[Mung]

I am going to a wedding tonight and the wedding list just asks for B&Q vouchers. I am going empty handed. I refuse to give cash too.

[edam]

I don't give cash, ever. Very rude of the couple to ask, unless it's a Greek wedding or something.

Went to the wedding of someone who had asked for money recently and bought them a big photo of their family that they wanted but couldn't afford to buy and have framed instead.

[Lauriefairycake]

1. £50

1. £30

1. £30

as that is usually what I can afford - don't give more than you can afford even if it's £10

[TillyScoutsmum]

Best friend's - we gave £100 but close friends (but not best best mates) would probably be £50

1. £30

1. £20 (or a bottle of fizz)

[Podrick]

Any more answers to this one?

[DiscoDizzy]

£50
£30
£30

[StealthPolarBear]

Depends on your circumstances but my amounts would be:

a) a close friend - £35ish
b) a not so close friend/ colleague - £25ish
c) if you have only been invited to the evening reception?!! Ahhh! Think I'd get a bottle of champagne and spend about £20

[nickytwotimes]

I would SPEND or give:
a)50
b)20-25
c)would try to avoid going, lol!

However, you should give what is affordable and what seems right to you.
A friend worth their salt won't give a monkey's!

[expatinscotland]

a) none
b) none
c) none

I refuse to give cash.

[PerkinWarbeck]

a) £100 but I only have a few super-close friends
b) £50
c) £25

although we usually choose to give vouchers for the shop wherever the list is at, I do feel funny about being asked for cash.

I've just been asked this for the first time. Been pondering on why I feel uncomfortble giving £25 cash rather than the £25 John Lewis vouchers I would happily give ....

[expatinscotland]

What is with inviting people to only the evening reception?

Is it a space thing, meaning, lack of space in the church/venue where the ceremony is taking place?

I had never heard of this except among the English.

[meemar]

expat - evening only invites are usually for people you want to have at your wedding but can't invite to the main meal due to financial/space restraints.

You might be able to fit them in the church/ceremony venue but it's impossible to say come to the church and the evening party, but not the middle bit iyswim.

[expatinscotland]

wouldn't a person just invite fewer people overall then, if they can't afford to invite them to the meal?

no?

i'm foreign and mostly used to large Latin American weddings, so forgive me, but i find that shockingly rude, unfortunately.

[Haylstones]

a. 50
b. 30
c. 20

[expatinscotland]

k, i see, mmj.

hmm, that is indeed very different.

[llareggub]

I don't give money. If asked for money I ignore it and buy a small gift instead.

We usually offer to do the invitations and photographs for close friends, so that is worth considerably more, I think, to the happy couple. Obviously they don't have to take us up on the offer!