Over reaction

[easy]

Blimey, what on earth is happening?
Currently there is a real spat going on at RK, because some people are being huffy about their opinions being criticised, and this afternoon I've found the same thing happening in one of the threads here.

I come to the discussions to see if I can help anyone, see if I can get help myself, and often for entertainments value (love the threads on mens habits right now ).

I accept that sometimes my suggestions may not be agreed with by others. If someone disagrees with me, Then that is their prerogative (big words now), and their opinion is just as valid as mine.
I think we all have our sensitive issues, and sometimes we can all say things that sound sharp by mistake. Please can our contributors try to keep a sense of proportion (and humour) about these responses. Personally I can get enough arguments at home if i try, weithout logging on to get them

CHEER UP everyone PLEEEZE.

[breeze]

here here

[ScummyMummy]

Where on here? Lead me to this spat!

[WideWebWitch]

Well I just looked too and couldn't see one! Even the RK one is very tame and everyone is being nice and polite!

[ScummyMummy]

Not fair- I wanted to see a proper ruck!

[Tinker]

I just looked as well, and was extrememly disappointed about how civilsed it was. Obviously soemone drumming up business for RK Wish we had their emoticons though!

[Scatterbrain]

Ooooh Errrr - nor me ! Not today anyway !!

Trouble is this is like e-mail - you don't get the tone or the facial expressions so you don't really know how something is being said !

What I hate is when I post something that I consider helpful in response to someone elses question and then someone else jumps in all superior and criticises what I've said - makes me fume that does ! I think we should all preview our own responses and think how we'd take the message if it was aimed at us before we post ! Oh Yeah - and take a deep breath sometimes too - I'm guilty of not doing that sometimes !

[soyabean]

Whats RK?

[Chinchilla]

Actually ladies, Suzannem is me. The 'spat' is now all nicely resolved on another thread there (RK is RaisingKids, Soyabean). I was not drumming up business for either RK or Mumsnet, just trying to help out a poor lady who was worried. My well meaning response was not taken well, but both sides have admitted some fault there, and I think that both websites must have benefitted from new members as a result!

I agree with the smiley faces there Tinker (saw you on there BTW! ), they're brilliant. Also, the fact that you can send a private message is good. I have received two as a result of the disagreement, both of them positive, which was nice. Scatterbrain, I agree with the comment about not seeing people's faces. I made the same remark on RK.

Oh well, drama over I hope! I don't like causing trouble.

[SoupDragon]

I couldn't find any recent spats on mumsnet when I looked. Then the GF one looked like taking off again

What emoticons does RK have then?

[Claireandrich]

You get a choice of emotions to choose from - a dozen or so, and most of them are animated, like winking, grinning, etc.

BTW, how do you get emotions on mumsnet?

[SoupDragon]

: ) =
: O =
: ( =
; ) =

Just leave out the space after the :

It's in the "getting started" bit of the mumsnet talk section.

Maybe if we all asked Tech very nicely we can have some more.

[Tinker]

Chinchilla - I wasn't meaning you when I said drumming up business. More the person who started this thread There, that means I've said it in a nice way!!!!

[willow2]

Tinker - you're not getting all cheeky are you???

[Tinker]

tut tut Willow! Must admit, like the way it says 'Hello cheeky' when I sign in.

[emsiewill]

So I went to RK, and managed to find the thread straight off (impressed myself). It all seemed a bit cliquey to me, but then I think this one did until I "got to know" you all Don't know if I'll go there again, though, there's barely enough hours in the day for this one.
Tinker, I always thought you were a bit cheeky!

[emsiewill]

Meant to say, loved their emoticons.

[willow2]

The thread that was causing all the fuss has now been deleted so don't bother looking for it!

[Chinchilla]

It's OK Tinker, didn't think that you meant me!

[Demented]

I don't know, you don't log on for 24 hours (getting the shakes) and all hell breaks loose!

[Rhubarb]

I must admit I love a good discussion, and it's probably me that has the GF one starting off again! But a discussion is one thing, when it starts getting personal I back off quick. I think mums in general don't like their parenting skills questioned and so everyone can get very defensive, which leads to ugly spats. Then you get trolls which really wind me up! But most people here know one another so any disputes I think are handled with humour and tolerance.....saying that I haven't looked at the GF one yet! Must remember to do my smiley faces a lot!

[Temptress]

Its not surprising there are so many rucks when some people set out to deliberately cause them. ScummyMummy if you have a beef with me then put it on this one where I post as Temptress. I have never denied that I am an occasional poster on RK as well and if I bore you simply dont read what I put..its that simple. Why you have made a dig at me in the first place I have no clue.

[Bozza]

Temptress I'm surprised you've got an issue with Scummymummy - she's always seemed like a conciliatory and sensitive poster to me. But then what do I know - I can't even follow the gist of this thread.

[Temptress]

I wouldnt have an issue Bozza if she hadnt been rude about me on another site for reasons unknown to me

[Chinchilla]

ScummyMummy - what are you doing??? Was that really you on the RK thread?? OMG, I'm amazed...I really did not mean to start a fight in that thread, and am kind of glad that it was deleted as I kept returning to it in a sad kind of way, having to re-read it and getting all upset again! Now it's gone I can forget all about it.

Out of interest, Temptress, who are you on RK? I thought for a while that you were TWoodford, but I'm not so sure now!

[Temptress]

I prefer not to reveal who I am on other sites, not to be rude but because of the bickering that I have seen going on. I wouldnt like to be judged on another site for points I have raised on this one and vice versa. I was glad to see the link deleted it had got very silly.