Feeling friendless

[Teapot99]

Hi, I'm a newbie just after advice really on what other people would do in this situation. I feel myself and my friends have drifted, we are not into the same things anymore I'm more of a homebird and I'm happy with that they are still into going out all the time which is fine I've no problem with that. But everything just feels so different now and I feel I don't have a connection anymore. I've sent messages asking how they are trying to strike a convo but they just seem disinterested like I'm too boring now so I don't matter but I can't change who I am and how I feel anymore than they can and why should they. It would just be nice to meet up and have a cuppa and chat and I know they do that between themselves but unfortunately I never seem to be invited like I don't fit into their world anymore.

[Busybeebeebee]

I’ve literally just gone to post pretty much the same thing!
My friends make plans and then bail last minute. It’s hard not to take it personally.
Part of me wants to just ignore their feeble excuses, the other wants me to be brave and reply ‘I think it’s obvious we all have different priorities at the moment so let’s just conclude this has run its course for now, no worries’.

I guess pro-actively trying to make new friends is the only option. That’s easier said than done.

[Turniptracker]

How old are you OP? Friends come and go throughout life and that's ok. There is nothing worse than trying to be friends with people who end up making you feel bad about yourself. There will always be new people you come across in life to make new friends with. I've binned a few people claiming to be my friends who have treated me like crap. I'm old enough now to know I don't need them and to move swiftly on!

[Teapot99]

It's comforting to know other people have similar experiences with this. I'm 40 so I'm clearly old enough to know that this is not a situation I should be bothered about but it's hard to let go of friendships you've had for so long. But it makes me question myself like am I the weird one for being so different, should I try and fit in more even if I don't want to. But then I think I'm not a kid I know my own mind I shouldn't have to just fit in. It's just hard but you're right lives take different paths and sometimes things change, thank you.

[Cactusmum]

It sucks big time but people change and sometimes at a different time or space than we do so we fall out of sync.. and sometimes they meet other friends that are more in sync with them.. it feels mean and like they are abandoning your friendship but its life. Been through it a few times, on both sides.