hi I hope this has done a name change.
This incident happened about 2o yrs ago, when she was about 15. At the time she was spending a fair bit of time at this friend's house.
Things were not great at home, and my sis will be the first to admit that she rather craved this man as a kind of second dad. I wasn't at home I was away at uni.
Our dad wasn't around. Anyhow. Over the years it has really affected my sis. She has had some rather not very well thought out relationships with men, mainly older. She doesnt think alot of herself.
We both lived away form our home town. Yet over the last 6-7 yrs we both returned to that town.
Of ocurse, the old friend wanted to have contact with my sister again, and of course this has been awful because my sister doesnt want to tell the friend why she feels she cant.
I never knew about the 'incidents', until just after my child was born, my child is now 5.
My sisiter went thru an awful time, drinking etc. I was ready to go there and confront the man. Unfortunately i just couldnt put his wife thru it and I feel bad I just couldnt. Me and my sister just somehow wanted him to know, that I now knew. Then my sister told our father, who nearly went and said something but bottled it.
So once again, it has got swept under the carpet.
Thing is, my sister has now moved on alot, but I am having difficulty because this friend of my sis has just had a baby and she lives with the parents. The mother works in town and i have to see her regularly now, due to the fact she works somewhere i have to leave my dd on occasion. Its just thrown it all up for me again.
Of course we have no idea what soever if anyhting ever happened to her, or wether this was just a stupid man trying it on with his teenage duaghter's friend in a moment of madness.
It was along time ago, yet i am so angry that it wil prob never be known, and I dont even know wether i want it to be. Of course in a way it is none of business, because it didn't happen to me but to my sister, but she did mention it recently and i rather feel like we have let her down in some way in not having a go at him, or soemthing.
this is just on my mind, and is getting me down.
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a long time ago, my sister's friends dad exposed himself to her, and i am so annoyed cos he has never been punished for it
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ridiculoussitch · 02/08/2007 22:50
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