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Feeling very under appreciated or am I being dramatic ?

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la93 Sun 11-Feb-18 18:22:21

Just to give you a heads up this is going to be a long one but I really need an outsiders understanding and point of view.

I am currently on maternity as I had my first baby back in November. I'm receiving very little money, just managing to pay bills each month and left with no pennies at the end of the month. My boyfriend works, so I'm home with baba most of the week.

Since giving birth I've discovered that 80% of my wardrobe either doesn't fit me or is unsuitable to breastfeed in when I'm out. Leaving me with just joggers and pj's that I can wear. Which as you can imagine is not at all practice to wear out.

Unfortunately I haven't got any spare money to buy any new clothes so decided to put everything that doesn't fit me on eBay to give me a little bit of money to buy a few essentials to have a few things that actually fit me.

My boyfriend recently came into a little bit of money and has been saying since I gave birth, I really want to treat you but don't have the money. When he was aware that he was getting this money he said he'd buy me new clothes because I desperately needed them. I was really excited!

When he finally received the money he spent it all on himself on luxury items- a new iPhone, snazzy gym shoes and clothes and event tickets.

I've had to keep my mouth shut because I don't want to cause any drama but also in the past I've bit myself in the bum by saying something and then him actually having something planned around the corner and me being impatient ruining it.

I'm now at a stage where I feel really down, resentful and just unhappy about everything except being with baby. The things that I used to love-going out to visit friends and family I dread knowing I have nothing to wear.

I don't know what to do 
I do so much for him and don't expect anything in return but as a family unit I expect him to want to support me through these financially difficult times and help me feel better- he knows how unhappy I am. I know the money he came into is his and I'm not one to tell him how to spend it. But if the shoe was on the other foot- helping him would have been my first priority

Thanks for taking the time to read this

specialsubject Mon 12-Feb-18 13:53:50

You reproduced together and should be a team. You are doing the childcare so he either pays for that so you can go to work, or supports you properly.

What do you get out of this alleged relationship?

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