OK so long story short & wil be quoite ranty, so I apologise. Im really wound up, depsite probably having another therad onb this from some months ago.
dd2 born 7.12 in Aug
BF baby
GREAT weight gain like 13oz, HV - but oohh no dont feed her less than 2 hrs apart ?? They dont need to be BF less than 2hrs apart? ME- WHAT about demand feeding ,where does that come in then,??? HV- , well they still need time for it to digest ? ahh right. So her GREAT weight gain is nothing to do with feeding her when she wants?
Then great weight drop from 50 percentile to 25.
HV getting concerned asking me to come every week grrrrrrrrrrrr
errrr shes bf , yes they do drop down and stay smaller arghhhhhhhhhhh so again I have weeks of that red book syndrome.
So I avoid clinic and carry on getting tormented anyway about her gain , despite wet nappies , bright child , poos , changing nappy sizes etc.
cut to Dec - me in panic & really quite unable to go to the clinic as have a very bad back and SPD, worried , tired and sore and anxious I stupidly asked HV to come round, weighed and guess what? , another percentile drop. Im now doing mixed feeding btw , but only just and yet again its that dreaded red book chart syndrome. Sooo HV says errrrrrr I think give her more bottles (yer that works doesnt it when they dont want it) , and feed her more ,ME- what? more than twice in the night and I dont know how many times during the day???) ahh ok if that doesnt work WEAN HER EARLY ,(despite all research to the opposite now fgs). HV- Ill come round every 4weeks is that ok ? Yer err great!
Cut to This afternoon phone goes
HV - hello its HV,how are you , me - Im doing ok , gettting there, HV- we havent seen you at clinic for some time? me errrr you said you would be coming round to me. HV err well we find its better you come to us, (never mind until 2-3 weeks ago I was in agony going out and could be sitting in a corner of my house with pnd or somesuch).
SO heres me all afternoon having ranted to a friend and driven her mad with it all. I dislike that shes planted the seed of doubt again in my head, that may be Im not doing right by my dd2. I dislike that I was told what to do. I dislike her abrupt and short manner and the nanny state business. I dislike that she didnt even ask how her feeding is going, Great actually , shes taking nearly 30 oz , in my book thats fab , shes also wearing dd1s clothes that dd1 didnt wear till she was a year fgs , why why why didnt I stick up for myself. What do I do now?????. Her last words were , we'll see you on Thursday. Why was she so short that I didnt even get a chance too explain. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR .
She organised student placement with me and asked if she was with me , which she is , so I think the implication is that if I had her then I should have been coming. How's about speaking to me with some ounce of intelligence and that If I was worried I would have phoned her already myself , as I had done the other time??
if you read all that twallop of mine I thank you for taking the time.
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melsy · 20/02/2007 20:00
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