Via a random Google search of my father's name by a 3rd party I came to be informed this Sunday of an obit for him. Two more links marking his death have been found, both forums relating to his former profession.
He died late November last year. Via the links of random internet people having a chatter I have established cause of death. Brian cancer.
Again via information in the links my sister and I have tracked down his final resting place.
I believe the reason why we were not informed by either my father, nor his former mistress, now wife, was in order to facilitate disinheriting us. Most likely as punishment for refusing to accept all his choices as always somebody else's fault. He abandoned us at 11, 14 and 16.
I had always thought that unlike Italy, where I live, in England you can leave your assets as randomly as you like. And as an estranged child I have always banked on being disinherited. But somebody has sent me a link to some kind of family act made in 1975. So I think there was a deliberate intent to delay our knowledge of his death, and leave us to find out via internet based chatter, as and when it happened.
As I understand it in order to resist a challenge my father will have been advised to either makes trust, or make it very clear in his will why he was cutting out his 3 children.
I want to see those reasons in black and white. I cannot sit here in tears with "if onlies, what ifs, maybes" about his emotional connection for us any longer, if, as the context suggests, he deliberatly left us to be the last to know, for motives of exacting belated will-based punishment for not letting him off the hook for letting us down so badly.
All we ever wanted was a sorry. She can have the money, and my late grandparents' money. I hope it keeps her warm at night.
But I want to see my father's reasons. To allow his final words regarding me to pierce the bubble of pain and let me grieve no more for a man who dismissed me in his life, and death.
I don't live in the UK. I will have to do this from here, becuase my UK based sister is crushed by how we found out, and my relationship with my brother is untenable.
Do I have any right to see his will ? And if I do, where do I even start ?
I know the UK doesn't have a notary manage and publish the will like they do here. I know somebody acts as executor. But if that is his former mistress/now wife.. based on how she body blocked me as a teenager, so I couldn't even sit next to my father, I can't see things being made easy for me.
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iPost · 09/02/2016 12:23
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