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advice and help needed please

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hightidebaby · 07/11/2013 17:00

Basically I may post this is the wrong place but it has a few aspects to it and i really need some advice (sorry its long)

So I woke up this morning after a terrible nights sleep to my next door neighbours having a domestic AGAIN, I'm pretty sure he hits her and after something thudding against my wall that made my wardrobe shake, I decided to phone the police. Many people might say its nothing to do with me but after hearing her saying 'please don't hurt me', I'm not one to just ignore it. So I rang the police, they turned up after the guy had left and she was now crying in her flat.
We live in a big house converted into flats so walls are thin (we all rent) . I heard the whole police convo, she slammed the door on the and was like 'i was arguing on the phone' .. rubbish. They left and rang me to say that she said nothing happened, but there going to add her on the protective list just incase she or anyone else rings the m about her... because she PREGNANT... when they told me this i literally was shocked because there always smoking weed in there flat. As I am also pregnant I'm finding it so hard to deal with the smell and im worried about my unborn child. But when her other half came home he shouted very rude abuse through the flat at the top of his voice basically saying he was going to get the person who rang the police. So from also smelling weed every night, being woken up by loud noises from them every other day, I was today scared to leave my own home to go to University. I really don't know what to do. I'm worried the stress will have an effect on me and i have terrible sickness and finding it hard already at 12 weeks, and also my unborn because of the stress and weed.

any advice is fantastic, please I dont know what to do sad

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DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 07/11/2013 17:59

If this place was on a recommended accommodation list from Uni please bring this up with student welfare. Push for an alternative place to stay. If you are feeling intimidated to the point that you are skipping lectures or tutorials this is unacceptable.

There will be other tenants who have smelled the smoke and heard the noise, not just you. The couple won't automatically assume it is you who rang the police, (which was the right thing to do btw). Keep to your normal routine, if you see her around just act normal and friendly, don't act like you've done something to be ashamed of. Stay out of the boyfriend's way.

Most weed smokers ime whether old or young are fairly laid back, easy going types unless they ingest other substances or had plain nasty personalities in the first place. It could be him, or her, or both of them smoking.

You shouldn't be in fear of other tenants. You tried to help the gf, she didn't want help, now you have to put yourself first.

If you feel intimidated, by any direct confrontation with the bf or his partner, contact the police again.

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