ds has recorder lessons. His teacher has just invited him to be part of a Christmas Concert - not his music group end of term thing but a bigger event in the church on the High Street with people from lots of different groups. It's quite a compliment that he's been asked - but he doesn't want to do it as he's 'too nervous'.
He's only seven - should I say OK, don't worry and just wait until he reaches a stage where he has more confidence about performing with a bunch of strangers in front of lots of strangers? (It would make me nervous, tbh.) OR is there some way I can help him get over his nerves?
I'd love to see him do it. And I'm quite proud of him for doing well enough to be asked.
He's generally very confident in his own little world, among his peers. But sometimes is a little apprehensive and wants to avoid things 'because I'm nervous' - most recently a Beaver Scouts night hike. He's also refused a couple of optional Beavers activities (none of his own friends happen to be in this group - it's VERY difficult to get into packs round here, he was on the waiting list for three years).
Have reminded him about all the other times when he's been nervous but things have gone really well, and admitted that I'm nervous too sometimes but glad when I give things a go (had to give a major presentation recently and used that example).
So, if it was your child, would you push or would you hold back?
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ds is nervous and doesn't want to accept the invite to be part of a concert. How can I help him get a little more confident?
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edam · 15/11/2010 22:28
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