I really need some advice.
My DD has recently turned three and all of a sudden, everywhere I go, people have started asking me "so when are you having another?"..not "if", bloody "when", like it's compulsory
The truth is, we always thought we'd have two or three. But ever since DD was born I've been waiting for the broodiness and longing for another to hit me and it just hasn't happened. Same for DH. We haven't completely ruled out having another but we aren't sure it's what we want either and we've both agreed that we're not ready to make that decision right now. We're a very happy unit of three and sometimes I think that if there wasn't this insane social pressure to have more than one child, we might not consider it at all.
The thing is, if I tell people we haven't decided yet they seem to take that as a cue to try to persuade me into having another, usually by trotting out tedious generalisations about only children, most of which I know to be bullshit because I am an only child myself. Or they say something along the lines of "well don't take too long to make your mind up or it might never happen", which is equally unhelpful. I'm aware that fertility is a time sensitive issue of course but I don't want to be panicked into having a baby I'm not sure I definitely want. I'm 32 so I'm not a spring chicken but I'm not desperately worried about my biological clock either.
So, how do I shut down the questions (which make me feel defensive and uncomfortable) without being rude? And how do I not let it get to me and make me doubt myself? I know, I know I could just tell them to mind their own business but there are some situations (e.g if it's someone I know in a professional capacity) where it's not advisable.
Any advice would be much appreciated.
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yorkshapudding · 05/12/2016 22:49
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