Hi all,
I'm writing for some advice and ideas really. My lovely DS is 7 yrs old, and he was the product of IVF so he was a miracle really as it had then worked first time. We then had 4 frozen embryos left from that one cycle (which had been conceived when I was in my early 30s and were good quality).
For various (serious) reasons DH and I delayed / went back and forth about trying for these frozen embryos. I always wanted a second child but DH was conflicted about it and we had professional and financial constraints.
Eventually, we reached a decision, and this last year we tried for 4 all--thus I went through 4 frozen embryo treatments, starting from sept. 2015 and ending yesterday. It was clear to both of due to our age and other reasons (I'm now in my 40s / DH in his 50s) that this would be it after this.
None of the embryos worked. Yesterday I got my final negative pregnancy test. I feel numb, that's all, at the moment...but I had cried a lot after the previous 3 failed attempts.
I have told myself many times that people go through many many difficult things in life and this is not one of the worst although it involves grief and loss. For years I held on to this dream of a second child and it felt particularly hard having those frozen embryos there, 'waiting for us' (as it felt). Now that it's all over, how do I move forward & properly mourn for this & put it behind me? What have you found helps? I want to also add that our life with our boy is good & I can very well see the pluses of having one child rather than more, it's just that I have to find a way to move beyond my previous dreams & hopes...
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stilllovingmysleep · 27/03/2016 08:34
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