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Charjames Wed 06-Jan-16 20:45:22

I'm a single parent to an amazing 9 year old boy, i work full time and make sure every evening we play with his Lego or read or do something that he wants to do, but more recently he keeps telling me he's bored even though his bedroom is full of toys. On my day off the other day I built all his Lego up ready for him when he came home to play and he's told me he doesn't want to play it, and as I was cooking tea him then telling me he's bored. Can anyone suggest anything?

Saxons Wed 06-Jan-16 20:47:12

Play dates! He probably means he would like some company of his own age

SisterViktorine Wed 06-Jan-16 20:48:08

How many out of school activities does he do? He sounds like he's ready for a sport that would really tire him out.

Football or swimming club 3 or 4 nights a week and then maybe cubs on top as they are quite active at weekends?

Charjames Wed 06-Jan-16 20:52:20

I feel so stupid I never even thought of after school activities because he goes to after school club until I finish work. I might try swimming thank you ladies

ohdearlord Wed 06-Jan-16 20:53:44

I think single kids get sick of grown-up company. We go in for lots of activities after school to help.

starry0ne Wed 06-Jan-16 20:54:25

I am LP of 8 year old..He spent much of Christmas playing outside on the street...

Has he grown out of lego? Does he do out of school activities..Does he have a game console...Maybe play with him on that.. top trumps / board games... Does he just want to chill out and watch Tv...We sometimes have film night...Tea in front of Tv and a movie....

Charjames Wed 06-Jan-16 20:56:14

He has a game console and we play on that regularly and weekends we go somewhere for an adventure but I think everyone's right he might be getting bored of my company day in day out

Charjames Wed 06-Jan-16 20:56:52

We live on a main road so Not to keen on him going out to play

Tiggeryoubastard Wed 06-Jan-16 20:59:12

He while point and the fun of Lego is to build. Why are you doing that for him?

Tiggeryoubastard Wed 06-Jan-16 21:00:09

The whole, not he while.

Charjames Wed 06-Jan-16 21:02:08

He's always liked playing with it once it's built rather than build it, he'll make random things but sets he doesn't like building it

sleepyhead Wed 06-Jan-16 21:04:04

It's ok to be bored sometimes. In fact I'd go as far as to say it's important to be bored when you're 9 - it makes you think about how to amuse yourself.

Ds1 is 9 (no longer an only but ds2 is 2 and so not usually considered adequate company) and frequently says he's "bored". He's got plenty of toys, books, he could do his homework, draw, daydream, look out of the window. Hell, he could even tidy his room if he's bored enough wink.

It sounds to me like you do loads with your ds - probably more than I do with ds1. I wouldn't get too hung up on the only thing. Children his age with siblings will also be bored and fed up of each other's company if they play together at all.

We have play dates roughly once a fortnight and that's good for him getting to play with friends his age outside school, but there's no correlation I can see between frequency of playdates and boredom!

Charjames Wed 06-Jan-16 21:17:14

Thank you so much, yeah he's never bored enough to tidy his room funnily enough smile I'm definitely going to try the play dates though

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Thumbcat Thu 14-Jan-16 08:59:45

I was constantly bored as a child and I had a sibling. It's just a kid thing. It sounds like you play with him far more than I do with my 8yo DS. I just tell him to find something to do or I'll find him some extra homework [evil].

angemorange Thu 14-Jan-16 09:09:06

My DS is 9 and goes to Football and Scouts during the week. He's an only child but never really seems bored - he likes playing Minecraft and some other games on the tablet but I limit his use of them.

Could you get him interested in a hobby like Football cards or crafts?

Ideally you want something he can amuse himself with! I wouldn't worry about constantly providing entertainment - all kids have to find some way of independent play. Sounds like you are doing a great job!

Sadik Thu 14-Jan-16 09:09:12

"I'm bored"
"Oh, that's good - I've got (insert job X) that needs doing"
"It's alright Mum, I'm ok" <child vanishes> . . .

Mind you, these days prising her out of her room and making her interact is the issue grin (13 now)

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