Help. My usually lovely 3 yo DS has been at a preschool for three months now but is struggling to make friends. He is among the youngest in the year. I am now wondering whether I did the right thing only ever having a nanny who he shared with one other child before this. I thought I was doing the right thing by keeping him out of institutionalised childcare until he was three. Have now got baby DD who he doesn't hit. But he has been in timeout several times at nursery for pushing and hitting. I have been in to try and identify any little thugs only to discover my child - from what should be the cushiest of backgrounds in our v mixed patch - is the only potential thug. He goes in and acts very boisterously as he wants to get attention of other DCs. He shouts their names and they all ignore him. Already the kids seem to be playing with their own genders but DS loves girls. They have no interest in him and the only other boys there seem to want to play on their own and not with DS. Another child actually told me: 'no one wants to be his friend as he is always naughty'. Feel mortified and have tried but failed to get play dates sorted. Have also noticed a few other children talking about birthday parties which DS has not been invited to. No wonder! Teacher has told me he has trouble socialising and is desperate to make friends. Am torn between being v annoyed at his hitting and feeling desperately sorry for him. Have had stern words at home but not sure whether retrospective punishKent works at his age. I do not want him to be a social pariah. He is very articulate and verbal at home though not keen on drawing. Will he struggle next year at primary? Should I be looking to send him to different school if he has been labelled already by kids or will they forget? I prob sound crazily anxious but want to nip this in bud now x
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Pullnopunches · 08/12/2014 14:41
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