Not sure if I'm posting in correct place.
I will be going back to work FT towards the end of this year, LO will be about 10 months old by then.
Currently they are on a number of waiting lists for local nurseries. Also, I'm in the lucky position of having my mother ready & willing to take care of my LO while I work.
However, I don't have the best relationship with my mother/both parents, to be honest I find them quite controlling, wanting me to do what they want etc.
My mother wants to care for my LO full time but I am quite uncomfortable with this and think it'll be a but much (she works part time, father is retired).
More significantly, my mum strongly disagrees with nursery and has made this clear already, accusing me of planning how I'm going to "dump my LO" while I go back to work
Me and DP are trying to save to buy a house (we live in London) so as you can imagine we need all the spare cash.
We are keen for LO to go to nursery for a few days to get socialised with other little children.
Does anyone here have their mum/parents doing FT childcare for their kids? How does it work out...?
I know there is the obvious money saving angle, I'm more convened with "family dynamics"...
Am not sure I want my mum looking after my LO full time, also my OH is not that keen on my parents (my parents have made it clear they don't feel he "provides adequately" for me i.e. he's not bought us a house like my sister's husband) and I don't want family relations to suffer.
I'm trying to enjoy my maternity leave but already I can feel my mum judging me harshly, she has already given me a lecture on how selfish I am to put LO in a nursery and how disappointed she is in me for not providing a proper home for LO (we currently live in rented accommodation shock horror, but that's a whole other dispute!).
Sorry this is such a ramble, I'm finding the whole thing so emotionally charged and it's stressing me out already.
Again I will add that I realise how lucky I am to have the option of family helping us out.
Please tell me if I need a good slap & a generous dose of man the fuck up!
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amandine07 · 14/04/2014 04:05
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