Hi all,
I would be really grateful if you could help me with this. My DS (eleven months) started crèche last week and while we were happy with it when we first picked it the first day was a bit of a disaster and I'm worried if it is a taste of things to come. He had attended for introductory hours the week before and it went ok. I am so sorry if this is very long!
He was upset when we dropped off so I had rung during the day to check and the manager assured me that he was happy and laughing. My DH arrived at 5.45 to collect him and he was the last child in the building with all the other rooms locked. My DS was sitting on the floor without any toys around him while his keyworker wrote notes and the other staff member cleaned up. He was as white as a ghost and his eyes were very red. We were told that he hadn't eaten and cried all afternoon which is very different to how the manager described him. He was inside all day and spent a good bit of time in an entertainer/walker thing (despite the fact that I had clearly said he wasn't to be in this as he has ongoing treatment for his feet). I had also requested that he was offered water regularly as he has renal issues and gets very thirsty (but he was only given a drink with his meals).The staff told my DH to check his nappy when he got home as she hadn't checked it since 3.30 (although he was alone with her since 4pm...) He cried until 10pm that night and was so clingy and upset all week when he was dropped off and collected which is really not like him.
From the outset I didn't like the baby room as it is very small and dark (i.e. no pictures, murals or anything on walls except a low mirror and all toys put in another room in boxes) but I was reassured that it would be renovated and that the babies were brought outside when the weather was good. Now it seems that plans to renovate are on hold. There's just him and another baby who started the exact same day and while the one staff member seems kind and sweet it's difficult to get information from her and she seems to be mainly focused on feeding, changing, sleeping etc and stimulating or playing with the babies gets overlooked.
We met with the manager the following day as we were all so upset and she agreed that staff should not have put away toys or start cleaning while he was still there and that he should not have been left sitting there. She also apologised about the misinformation when I rang. She said that the staff member is very good but was possibly overly fastidious about hygiene and cleanliness to the detriment of stimulation and playing with the babies. From the way she spoke it sounded like the staff member was a bit overwhelmed by having two start the same day and that made me worry. She agreed to address our concerns with the staff and we felt a bit more reassured. We decided to see how it goes and pull him out if it really wasn't working. Those issues have mostly improved since we addressed them but there are a few other niggly things that are annoying me but I know this post is long enough!
So I guess my question is whether others would think this is strange or am I being overly paranoid and should I put it down to initial teething problems that most people experience with a crèche? I fully appreciate that he is our first baby and has had a lot of health issues already so we are very protective but on the other hand as part of my job I often visit crèches to observe children and I am used to seeing the good, the bad and the ugly! I would really appreciate your thoughts and sorry again for the length of the post :)
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NatureorNurture · 07/10/2011 15:48
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