Apologies if this is not articulate as it should be or goes on...getting a bit stressed about the situation.
Our DD turned 1 a week a go and I return to work on Wednesday working 3 days, DH works 3 days (Mon-Wed). Plan was/is for DD to go Nursery Wednesdays (1 day a week) with a view to increase this to 2 days at perhaps 18 months (never really occurred to us that she may find it harder/longer to settle) so we visited 3 nursery's (in hindsight should have visited more).
We started our settling in sessions last week:
Session 1 - 1 hr with me in the room - seemed to go ok (first time so have nothing to compare the experience with) DD held on to my hand most of the hour, wasn't keen on the other children getting too close, she will be the youngest others being 14 mths plus, she would perhaps walk up to the other children touch them however if they made any sudden movements or a loud voice would run in the opposite direction. I thought this was a good start!
Session 2 - 2 hrs with me leaving after 20mins, when she noticed I wasn't there the tears started and I could see a member of staff working with DD distracting her and singing to her, cuddling her. The toddlers had afternoon tea in the dining room and DD did not eat anything accept for the raisins offered. Total crying time approx 1hr 25mins
Session 3 - 2 hrs This time DH decided to come along and support and see how things are going. DD is a real daddy's girl and if both of us are standing together she will always choose him. Anyway she hold on to DH hand the whole time and eventually we managed to sneak out after 20mins. DD cried the entire time left.
Session 4 - 2hrs We decided that DH is not to come as he is more of a distraction for her. There was a change in the staffing and the women who had been looking after Ana not there, in another room due to staff shortages although I would have liked continuity for DD. I left the room after 10mins, DD crying, while sneaking a peek into the room without letting DD seeing me (which I had done the other sessions) I just felt that this worker was not cuddling DD enough as DD would have her hands held high and nothing just talking and singing she would perhaps go to pick her up if she saw me peeking through....at tea time DD made to sit on a chair when the other worker had allowed DD to sit on her lap and the whole time at the table DD had her hands held towards the worker saying just old me all the while crying...DD had a bowl of soup in front of her and a sandwich. After Tea could not listen to her crying anymore and went in. The worker said she did not touch her soup. Well it's a new type of food and not something we have at home on a regular basis, also explained as stated in all my forms DD is not a self feeder needs help. She also said that DD was 'popping' on her all the time I explained it could be her nerves and it's not unusual for DD to 'Pop"
As I was leaving was introduced to someone who is going to be DD keyworker and DD has never met her before so she will be traumatised again by this new person.
Do you thing we should:
1 - Leave nursery until she is a little bit older
2 - Mum has offered to have DD on a Wed for a couple of months although she lives some distance away DD is familiar with her and we will be reassured.
3 - Not sure if I was nit picking however I thought the nails on the women for Day 4 were quite long for working with wriggly toddlers and am sure DD has a scratch from one of her nails.
4 - Each room has a radio/cd player am convinced I heard something like capital or kiss - we don't really expose our DD to that type of music at this age.
5 - When singing to DD they only seemed to know Twinkle Twinkle which we use at sleep time or old McDonlads farm...no sorry they also sang raining man which I didn't really approve of. (Although nothing wrong with the song itself)
6 - Had said to the nursery DD loves to read and likes having a pile of books she can approach, choose and bring to you to read to her, noticed that the books are in a cupboard that no one can barely notice they are there
7 - The toddlers beaker are kept in a box by the sink however have explained that DD points and grunts mainly to communicate and if she cannot see it cannot tell you she wants it
8 - On our last session it was a Fri pm and the manager was not there but there really seemed to be an air of that friday feeling, perhaps if DD was enjoying herself may be I would not have been erked by it.
9 - have got in touch with some of the NCT mums and a couple of the toddlers are going to a particular nursery should I try putting dd somewhere where she may be familiar with other DD's
Any advice appreciated, I know I have gone on a bit and some of what I write about is perhaps nit picking
Many thanks in advance
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Macey78 · 25/07/2011 01:11
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