Am I being unreasonable

[Alana87]

Hi I’m new on here, I have four children , 14,9,6,3 . 😀. Oldest 2 are boys and younger ones are girlies. Anyway I have been separated from my children’s dad for 3 years now and in my current relationship for 2 years. The thing is about a year ago my partner quit his job and can’t claim benefits as he is not Scottish. Anyways I work and I get my mum to take the kids to school and pick them up. I then have to come home, cook, clean , washing , just everything really, while my partner sits on his beloved Xbox. He does watch them at wknds but has no interaction with them. My oldest son normally plays with his little sisters. He smokes which I don’t do I’m having to buy him tobacco , also basically do everything for him, including take charge of docs appointments etc. He never praises me or when I try to look good for him he doesn’t even notice. Our sex life is non existent,l. Sorry for going on and on. I just feel that I am trapped . I told him 2 days ago that it was over but again he refused to move out my home, saying he will change, look for a job and so I felt sorry for him and said ok. Yet here we are 2 days later and he hasn’t even looked for work. I am exhausted and drained. He doesn’t like me speaking to people I.e neighbors, as he thinks they want to be with me. He’s really quite jealous. I’m I being unreasonable if I maybe get a family member up to get him out the house ? Sorry again for the long thread.

[WineGummyBear]

Hi OP

Welcome to Mumsnet. I recommend that you ask Mumsnet to move this thread to the relationships board as you'll get some good support over there.

I think that it's time to put yourself and your children first.

You are supporting a layabout who contributes little or nothing to your happiness or theirs.

Would you want to see any of your children in a relationship like this?

Good luck.

[WineGummyBear]

Just realized I didn't answer your specific question.

Absolutely, getting a family member to help remove this man is a great idea.

[Alana87]

Hi Thank you for your reply, I think i needed to vent to someone . Omg no way it actually makes me feel sick the thought of my children being in my position. Thanks means a lot , I think I will be getting a family member .

[Aprilislonggone]

The mn terminology is he is a cocklodger and you need to ltb.
*Leave the bastard (or Lob the Bastard out in your case!)

[Alana87]

Yip totally agree, thank you .