Need to vent a little bit, my mum upset me.:(

[confused32]

Hi, I recently figure out that I'm probably having Asperger syndrome, I haven't seen my GP yet as I'm picking up my courage to do it. I had meet my health visitor today, as I was concerned about my ds behaviour and she referred him to psychology specialist for complete revision, for speech development, social developments etc. The point is that I told my mom today and her reaction was well...mean, she said "Really? But he is a such bright boy!" I told her that his intelligence haven't nothing to do with this, it almost sound like she thought that all people with special needs are retarded and stupid, I was upset, then I told her I may have Asperger and therefore it could be genetically and there's chance that he may have it too, she started to be quite offensive and told me she really didn't noticed that there was ever anything wrong with me when I was child and If I have it, then it's not definitely from her side of family but from my dads side( they divorced when I was child)...I felt like she thinks like that I have some sort of infection disease...I'm having problems to process think like this and took me little bit longer to understand that she was truly mean and rude, so I realise this when we finished the call. Point is that my mom had always been like this and used to say very mean things, which just stuck in my head for a years, but she doesn't even realise that she said something inappropriate. I'm feeling quite stressful to talk with her, cos she doesn't take very well different opinions of other people.
Or am I overreacting? Just need to vent a little bit really as I need to get it out of me.:(

[toffee1000]

Reading your post, I’m guessing English isn’t your first language. (I understood you, just some of the grammar). If so, it may be partly a cultural thing. The US and the U.K. are pretty clued up on ASD and its manifestations, in comparison to Europe where I believe it’s not so nearly understood, many may think it only applies to the seriously affected ones (non-verbal, violent etc) and it’s caused by poor/cold parenting (particularly from the mother). It’s a very old-fashioned way of thinking about ASD.
Having said that, sometimes even in Britain people can be very ignorant about ASD, even with all the research and current thinking.

[Inveralaska]

Hi there. My dad is actually an asd specialist and has written several books on different aspects of autism and aspergers. If you look on amazon for dr david sherratt you should be able to find them. Many parents he has worked with have found them very useful as well as adults he’s worked with. It may be worth a look

[Kingsclerelass]

OP, I think your mum is showing a general lack of education on AS.
My mother never accepted that I might have Aspergers, I think because there was such social stigma around any kind of ailment at all.
She chose to think that any non-typical behaviour was just affectation, rudeness or attention seeking on my part. It helped her believe that she wasn't to blame. It did not make for a harmonious childhood
You aren't over reacting, Your mum is being unkind and showing a lack of understanding that is just plain wrong.
I couldn't change my mother's views either. In the end I just ignored them because they were ignorant, but it can be very hard.