I really need some help sorting the mess out that's my head. I am sorry if this is going to he to personal for some people but I am really stuck where to go and who to speak with anymore.
Dh: he's recently got his diagnosis of autism last week now we always knew it was there. It as always been an excuse for him ( and I really mean excuse) to get out of any responsibility. He says he either forgets doesn't no how to or finds it to much. Now I fully understand this could be the case but I think he needs to try. That's what frustrates me the most he doesn't try. He goes to work comes home plays his computer he won't talk responsibility for house work, shopping or financesomething or anything that's happening medically with the dc's. He didn't even want to go to ds2 assessment with pediatrician but u made him I dealt with ds1 assessment all alone I refuse to go though ds2 all alone.
Dcs: ds1 is having major trouble at school he's not reaching his grades for some reason and was incredibly upset yesterday that a teacher made him right down that he's not reached his grade. I do have a meeting with school tomorrow which I will try sort this out in. Ds2 I am struggling mega with he just wants to sit next to me and head but my arm. My arms are a mess from bruises and I am yet to find a way to stop him or an alternative. Ds3 has decided sleep is no longer for him.
The house we live in is far to small and also has damp we have no option but to move. I will have to do all the packing up and unpacking as Dh says he doesn't no what to do even though I have offered to show him. But he won't try then I will have people having a go at me as am stressed and upset and struggling to handle it.
My grandparents are in there 80s my grandads got dementia and his heart keeps stopping. My grandma has heart and kidney failure and was given 6-9 months to live in August.
My mum's also waiting to find out if she has cancer which she should found out Thursday.
I just feel like my brains taking in what's happening the just filing it away and nit dealing with it at all. I can't talk to people around me as they see me as being very strong ( which I hate as it makes me feel more pressure to be so strong when I can't I have been told that it's a compliment and I should take it as one but I don't feel like that) and if I express I am struggling people assume I can't cope I am going to have a break down that's when I start getting comments about how I am the family lynch pin and how my family would be nothing without me which just makes everything all that harder.
Really sorry about the long post and how personal it is I just need to get it out there to someone. I know I can't say anything to anyone close and please do give me your honest options and advice.
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Iamverynotcrazy · 10/11/2015 08:19
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