Hi there
Just read all your posts - it's comforting to know there are people out there who feel a bit like I do but also, I haven't been through anything like some of you have and I am humbled.. Popsy - I hope you feel stronger soon.. And Daynee I sooooo get how you feel - I feel the same.
Abbreviations are under the 'useful stuff' at the top I think.. BFP is big fat positive, DD is darling daughter, DH is Darling Husband, etc etc.
My story is as follows... Started TTC back in July last year, DH was away in August and September,so we tried in October and fell... I was totally and utterly thrilled. We both were.
I was booked for my 12 week scan on the 12th December 08 but started bleeding on the 8th, to be confirmed as a miscarriage in hospital 2 days later.
Totally and utterly devestated, I decided that the only way to get over it was to try again straight away.. I have used OPK's ever since and we have tried every month at the right time (apart from Feb when DH was away again) and no joy.... I am getting totally beside myself and don't know what to do. It's all I want - to be a Mum. I have no other goal or aim in life and it's killing me. I will be 31 in March next year and time is ticking on.
The saddest thing is that DH can only say 'be positive' or 'it will happen when it's supposed to' or 'our time will come' - I find these statements vacuous, empty, shallow and totally and utterly unhelpful..
Worst still, is that a girl I work closely with at work is approx 14 weeks pg, so I have to sit day after day and watch and listen to her... All my friends have either recently had babies or are pregnant and I am nothing but nice to them all, encouraging and supportive, in the vain hope that if I am a nice person, nice things will happen to me.. The whole 'treat people how you would want to be treated yourself' philosphy.
People who are pregant, haven't become so just to hurt you, and you can't take it out on them.. I do however think they need to show some tact when with people who have lost...
What I hate is that I have become obsessed.. I am only interested in having sex when the time is 'right'... DH is upset by this and thinks that don't 'want' him like I did, and only for baby making purposes... He says he feels used and HATES having to 'perform'...
I never wanted to become this person and on top of my loss and my desperate need to get pregnant, I don't like who I am and my marriage is seriously suffering
I don't know why it's taking so long and I hate the unknown...