Incomplete miscarriage - please HELP

[showmethegin]

Hi all, I spotted for around two weeks before having a miscarriage on 7th June. Bleeding faded down to almost nothing by Thursday. I then had to go to A&E in the early hours of Friday with extreme pain and I was bleeding extremely heavily. After some care I was transferred to the EPAU where they explained there was retained product.

I was 11+3 when the miscarriage started but as they have refused to scan me up until now they said they can't offer any treatment as yesterday's scan was the first NHS scan if had. Now I'm just in limbo waiting for blood results to come back today.

I feel like I've just hit my limit, I can't stop crying and just want it to be over. They are talking about medical management or maybe surgical. This is my second miscarriage in 4 months and just don't know what to do.

I'm so scared that some damage will be done which will hamper our attempts to have a baby in the future. Has anyone got advice or even just a hand hold?

[anicebag]

Handhold. You might have expelled everything naturally now. That happened to me after a miscarriage and I thought I'd need a surgical intervention.

[showmethegin]

Hiya, I'm so sorry this happened to you.

I wasn't very clear; I had a scan yesterday that showed the yolk sac and blood clots around that. It's just as EPAU have refused to scan me until yesterday (even after 4 weeks of bleeding) they won't treat straight away as they have to do two scans they said. I had a private scan at 8 weeks but they won't consider that.

I'm so so scared that it's in there, causing damage. I know that's not really logical but I just want it out. I'm so tired.

[anicebag]

Aw. Would the g.p consider preemptive antibiotics? I’m not a medic but can you tell your g.p of your (v.natural) fears? I hope someone comes along with specific knowledge. Perhaps you could repost asking for answers from midwives to consider your options.

[GingerCalico]

Hello lovely, i too had 2x MC in a short space of time, 2nd time round was 10x worse

Get on the phone to your Early Pregnancy Unit at your local hospital and really lay it on thick that youre very worried, cant cope at the monent and need some help and answers so that you can function. If youre bleeding heavily go into every horrible detail sometimes we downplay things i know

It wasnt until my husband rang my EPU frantic because he said i looked white as a sheet with pale lips and cold hands that they asked for me to come in first thing the next morning, i ended up staying 9hrs.

My point is we often downplay our trauma. I know i do, keep asking for help, they wont mind you calling repeatedly thats what they're there for

[showmethegin]

Hi all, I had medical management today. I'm at home waiting for the medication to work. As it's my third they want me to collect the product for testing which is just adding to my fear.

I know I'll get through this but just can't believe it's happening. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.