Medical Management after MMC - second round after retained tissue and nothing is happening

[HCN2016]

Hi All,
I read threads on here all the time looking for advise on my MMC but thought i'd just ask for advise instead this time.
I found out I was pregnant at the end of June but early on I had medium/heavy spotting, I went to the hospital to calm my fears and they said the cervix was closed and they thought I was fine but I still had more heavy spotting and I just felt like something wasn't right.
So I booked an early scan at 7 weeks. At the scan she said she believed I had been pregnant with twins but lost one, she found a faint heart beat but there was an empty space in my womb where she believed the second would have been, obviously this was a blow but I was so relieved to have seen the heart beat and know we would still have a baby.
I went back to the hospital on her advise to check me over and they told me my cervix was closed and they would not scan me for another week.
At 8 weeks sadly I was told they could not find a heart beat at all and that the baby had stopped growing. They then told me what my options were, I decided to wait 2 weeks to be sure and go back for a scan. Sadly no miracle had happened and there was still no heart beat found, so I opted for the medical management as I could not face the D&C (i'm so scared of the anesthetic, I did book this originally as wanted it all over and done with but after a panic attack I called and switched). I had the 1st tablet then went back 2 days later and had 4 tablets inserted and had to take 2 tablets every 3 hours. I immediately had cramps and contractions... lots of blood, clots and tissue.. everything I thought was supposed to happen. I thought this had surely worked, I had stopped feeling pregnant and was feeling more myself again.
So I waited 3 weeks and did the pregnancy test, for the first time in my life I was hoping to see negative but no!
I went back in for a scan and again opted for another round of Medical Management, this time I just had the 4 inserted and 2 to take every 3 hours. I prepared for the same as before but I only had minor cramps and nothing but a little spotting..... its been a week now and nothing has happened except a small amount of spotting.
I called back up today and they said I just have to wait and see for another 2 weeks. Surely if it hasn't happened now its not going too, I just don't know!
I'm so tired of this and just want to be back to normal so I can move past this and start trying again.
So sorry for the loooong story but I wanted to know if anyone else has had the same experience and what happened, will this work or will I have to face the D&C
Thank You x

[WineGummyBear]

Hi OP, I'm sorry to hear you are going through this.

I have no experience of medical management via the pills but I had 6 miscarriages. 5 ran their course naturally and for the 6th I had D&C.

I far preferred the D&C. It meant there was no protracted waiting for it to happen. Waiting for it to be over.

That may not be helpful for you as it's not what you asked. I suppose I'm suggesting that the D&C option may not be as awful as you fear.

[HCN2016]

Thank you for your reply, any input is really helpful to me.
I am starting to think a D&C would at least get this over and done with finally, just need to brave it so I can actually move on.
Keep holding out hope that this still could work and be done they way I wanted but might have to accept this.

Thank you again and i'm so sorry for your losses xx

[Lailou18]

My baby was 11 weeks. I had medical management which didn't work for me so then had D&C. In the end, I felt it was tge better option for me. It was daunting and of course I was scared, but it meant I didn't have to go through the pain of delivering a little baby that I would never get to see grow. I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope all works out for you xxx

[julygirl]

I'm so sorry for your loss, I had the D&C yesterday and I never thought I would go for that option at all. My husband and I weighed up the options and it just seemed the least sad option for us.

It was the first time I had been under general and was so frightened too. But the experience wasn't at all traumatic and I can't praise the NHS medical staff enough for being so kind and reassuring - I had someone holding my hand as I went under and they did their best to distract me and told me they would take good care of me - and they did. You don't feel much pain and they make sure your journey is finished and you can move onto properly grieving for your dear tot.

I was out of hospital for bed rest in 6 hours, they give you home pain relief if you need it - but honestly ibuprofen has been enough for me. I hope I never have to do it again but for me it was the best option for me to move on from. I hope you are feeling ok and you can find the best option for you. x