2 MMCs in a row, what now?

[UnicornsandRainbows1]

Just a bit of background: I'm 27, had 2 pregnancies, 2 mmc. One made it to around 6wks (sac 9wks) found out the day before the 12 week scan; the latest made it to 8+1/8+2 (found out at 9+2 (9+6 by LMP)) 12wk scan would have been this coming Monday

Had surgical management yesterday so it's all raw and soon but it's been floating around in my head.

Someone tells me it gets better. I'm so deflated by the whole process and I know that in theory, there's no reason for the next pregnancy (if we are lucky) to work out, but I'm now just expecting to get investigated at this point.

After the 1st, I put it down to a really sad fluke, mustered up all I could for the next time as I figured that this one was different with different genetic coding, saw the hb at 6+1 (ovulated a bit later) and again at 6+6. I thought this was our pass and we could experience the happiness that we'll be okay. Now I just don't know if I could muster that same feeling again which is horrible.

I don't even know what I'm asking. Just that maybe it'll happen for us one day (without the third time lucky cliche). I doubt the GP would do much at this point as it's just seen as lucky right now?

[SinkyMalinks]

I’m sorry. I had a mmc at 12 weeks in sep. it’s horrible.

I think the stats suggest that the risk of recurrent problems only jumps up after 3 miscarriages - hence only being referred after 3. But that means the stats are still in your favour of next time being ok. Although i know it doesn’t feel like that...

[sleepycat13]

hi @UnicornsandRainbows1
so sorry for your losses.
there is nothing i can say that will change what you have been through but I hope my experience will give you some hope. I was one of those third time lucky cliches after one mmc and one early mc.
I found the third pregnancy to be very anxiety provoking especially in the first 12 weeks but I'm now sat here with a beautiful little 2 month old ds.

hospitals tend not to investigate any problems until after 3 mc. I was told by the nurse that this was because having one mc is sadly very common (1 in 4) having two is just 'bad luck' in the sense that it's just sadly one of those things that can happen and that you are statistically more likely to have a successful third pregnancy than not.
the epu did offer me early blood monitoring and a reassurance scan with the third pregnancy though due to the history which i found to be incredibly helpful. I also paid for a private scan at about 8 weeks as I felt like the wait to the 12 week mark was just too much and had a further scan at the epu at about 10 weeks following a bit of bleeding.
wishing you all the best