Miscarriage limbo help(8 Posts)
I feel like I’m going crazy. After 3 years ttc I finally got pregnant via Ivf. I’m supposedly 9 weeks. For the first few weeks I spotted but it stopped and the 7 week scan showed a viable pregnancy.
However 3 days ago I found my knickers were red with a clot. A visit to A&E showed my HCG levels were high at around 93,000 and a scan at the EPU clinic showed a heartbeat and a small pocket of blood which the nurse assured me was fine. She said to expect a bleed and to come back if worried.
Two days later I felt a huge clot pass. I ran to the bathroom and there was loads of blood far more than before. Luckily my mum was with me and we drove to the EPU unit. The bleeding then eased. They did a scan and saw a heartbeat. At first there was relief but a vaginal scan showed blood clots around the cervix. So not near the baby. A doctor then looked at my cervix and said it was partially open. She said possibly due to the clots. They then sent me away and said miscarriages are common. They have no way of telling. My body will do what it will do. This was over 24 hours ago and since then just spots of blood.
I was told to go to a&e if I get abdominal pains and heavy bleeding. Am I just waiting for that? I’m in a weird limbo but I can’t help but read that a partially opened cervix isn’t good news. But then I keep feeling hope there was a heartbeat. I’ve got no follow up appointment or anything.
Has anyone experienced anything similar? I’m just in pieces not knowing what’s going on.
@Katymac32 - so sorry to hear you are in this position. I'm afraid it's a waiting game, where you have to prepare for bad news but hope for good.
It's horribly cruel; I'm in a similar situation with a heavy bleed and 10 days until a viability scan can be done. It doesn't look good. Two years of trying, nine months since my last miscarriage and I'm over 40 so running out of time.
Take heart you've heard a heartbeat. And slowing of bleeding sounds like a good sign. Hopefully all will be well with you.
Thank you. I’m so sorry to hear about you too. It’s so hard especially when it’s been something you’ve waited so long for. The waiting is so painful. I was in tears all yesterday but I hate it as another day passes and hope builds. In my heart I think I know. If nothing happens in the next few days I think I’ll go back to EPU
Wishing you the very best xx
Don’t be afraid to go back to the EPU and ask for another reassurance scan. I would if I could, I just know it’s too early to give me a definitive answer.
I have had periods of strength and then fall apart. Not sure how I’ll manage work this week. I’ve have spent hours googling symptoms to find success stories, hoping for a speck of hope.
Can they not do blood tests to test your HCG levels in the meantime? I may contact EPU tomorrow but they just were so dismissive on Friday. You hit the nail on the head with “preparing for the worst but hoping for the best” just a dreadful limbo to be in xx
I think they can, but not sure they would be willing to. Might call the doctors tomorrow, but suspect they’ll be the same. Not sure how quickly results would come back either.
Scheduled for a scan at 7+1, and I asked on Friday if I could pull it forward to the end of this week 6+3ish - but was told to keep the original date. I know the EPU deal with lots of women in this situation, but sometimes a little sympathy and understanding wouldn’t go amiss.
Hello there. I didn't want to just read your post without offering some support. I miscarriaged this past Friday and spent a week in limbo wondering if the pregnacy that was such a pleasant surprise to me would be ripped from me. I completely understand the aniexty you feel while waiting for information. I will be praying for you. I hope everything works out and your baby is healthy. Sending you a virtual hug and positivity. 🙏🏽
Thank you and I’m so sorry for your loss. Would you mind if I asked what happened with you? X
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