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Miscarriage last night...need reassurance

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humblesims Sat 15-Jul-17 16:38:48

I dont know if this is correct or not (Its twenty years since I miscarried) but I'm sure I remember someone saying that its actually easier to fall pregnant within the six months after a MC as your body is 'primed'. I dont know if thats true or an old wives tale but please dont be scared. Statistically I'm pretty sure there is no correlation between first pregnancy early MC's and future conceptions. x

vitadolce2015 Sat 15-Jul-17 16:21:20

Thank you. You really give me hope. I understand exactly what you mean about having your OH protect you. Mine is making me feel very safe - to the point that I feel pretty dependant on him atm. I guess that's normal though. I've started feeling really scared that it'll be hard for me to conceive again - that's the only thing keeping me going atm. But I know I need to put that out of my mind. Thanks again xxx

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humblesims Sat 15-Jul-17 16:05:41

You will get through it. It's tough now. i lost my first pregnancy early on too and what you are feeling is perfectly normal. You have a lot of hormones driving around your system which will make you very emotional and it is a very emotional loss anyway. You will know by now that many women miscarry early on ( I had no idea until I went through it) and go on to have successful pregnancies and births. I had two babies. I got pregnant three months after I lost my first. It seems scary and you do worry but there's no reason at all that you will have a repeat. There's no guarantees obviously but its not something to worry too much about. The biggest thing that helped me at the time was my DH 'protecting' me from the outside world for a few weeks til I felt better. At the time (because it was my first?) I felt really...'stupid'? As if I 'd failed? Of course that feeling is normal (didn't know that then either!) and passes too. Take lots of care and take your time. You'll never forget but you will find a place for this and move on. flowers

vitadolce2015 Sat 15-Jul-17 11:26:41

Thank you everyone for your replies! Still feeling very empty, but taking comfort in knowing I can get through it and optimistic about trying again. I think I'll be ready to start trying as soon as this is over. Sorry to all of you that you had to go through such sadness as well. Isn't it amazing to have this platform to comfort each other. Wishing everyone all the best

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JamesSpaderMadeMeDoIt Fri 14-Jul-17 09:43:13

Lottietoot that sonographer needs a punch what a complete twat.

OP so sorry for your loss.

shopaholic85 Thu 13-Jul-17 18:32:08

I'm so sorry for your loss flowers

I had an mc at 6 weeks. I was devastated, especially as I felt that some people dismissed the loss because I wasn't very far along. DH and I bought a plant, because I desperately needed to see something grow. It's a beautiful plant and really thriving.

I got pregnant again after 3 months. She's 7 months- currently sitting on my lap trying to grab my phone out of my hand.

I hope you get your rainbow baby soon.

lottietoot Thu 13-Jul-17 18:13:36

I'm so sorry for your loss op flowers I had a miscarriage at 13 weeks and am currently snuggling my gorgeous 7month old who is snoring so loud I can't hear the tv. My miscarriage crushed me, I just couldn't get my head around it. It didn't help that the sonographer just casually said "nope, no heartbeat I'm afraid guys", then I was handed a leaflet and ushered out of the door. It did rob me of enjoying my pregnancy, however in hindsight I do regret not enjoying it. It's such a special time and my advice would be to enjoy every second when you are pregnant again. flowers x

AlbusPercival Thu 13-Jul-17 18:11:46

I'm sorry for your loss, it is so hard.

I had 2 mc, 16 weeks apart.

Took a break and tried again.

Currently typing while trying to get my 8 mo down for a nap.

vitadolce2015 Thu 13-Jul-17 18:07:43

Thanks all. It's even harder because we had an early scan on Monday and the midwife said we had a strong heartbeat sad I just hope we have luck soon and it doesn't take us too long to have our little one

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JamesSpaderMadeMeDoIt Thu 13-Jul-17 18:04:33

Just hugs flowers

ShuttyTown Thu 13-Jul-17 18:00:55

I have Pcos so have had massive fertility battles, had one MC and now have a 5 year old and 8 month old. You'll get your rainbow baby soon OP. Sending flowers

n0ne Thu 13-Jul-17 16:43:56

I had 2 mcs before this pg which is currently at 32w. Don't panic, mc is incredibly common and has no bearing on future pregnancies

vitadolce2015 Thu 13-Jul-17 16:41:28

Thanks you 💖

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Callamia Thu 13-Jul-17 16:32:02

Last spring, I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks. It was also an unplanned pregnancy, although I'd just about got my head around it.

I'm currently 37 weeks pregnant. Miscarriage is a horrible thing to go through, but I realised just how many of my friends had had similar experiences. All of those people had gone on to have healthy babies.

Be kind to yourself about this, but don't let it cloud what comes next too much. Good luck.

vitadolce2015 Thu 13-Jul-17 16:23:22

Thank you so much. That's just what I need to hear. Any tips on moving forward after a miscarriage? I'm just so upset x

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mintich Thu 13-Jul-17 16:20:24

I have just had a baby girl. I got pregnant with her 3 months after a miscarriage at 6 weeks. I was nervous at first but as time went on I became more positive about the pregnancy. I just think it wasn't our time last time. You'll be ok! smile

vitadolce2015 Thu 13-Jul-17 16:09:23

Hi all. This is my first time posting. I had an mc last night at 6+4. My OH and I are devasted, the pregnancy wasn't planned but we were so excited and happy. As soon as we're ready we will ttc again, soon hopeful. I suppose I'd just like some reassurance from people who have had an mc and gone on to have heathy happy babies. I feel so empty I'd just love some help to feel better. I'm scared that we won't feel so exited next time. It was such a beautiful feeling. Thanks all.

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