Fed up

[cadburyegg]

I went for my 12wk scan last week, but we already knew there was something wrong as i had had pain and bleeding. Sonographer confirmed no heartbeat and we were sent to main hospital. I miscarried mostly naturally but lost a lot of blood, passed some huge clots and was given injection to control it as well as misoprostol(?) as some tissue had got stuck to my cervix.

I found the whole experience horrific, i thought miscarriages involved some pain and bleeding and that was all (what an idiot), but the pain was horrendous, very similar to when i was in labour with DS but this time no gas & air!

After several days at home yesterday i was finally starting to feel normal again but then i realised there was something "stuck" so called the ward who told me to go to a&e which i did, where i was readmitted and they got some more remaining pregnancy tissue out and gave me some more misoprostol.

To top it all my MIL basically thinks i am being pathetic, they live 20 mins away and yesterday was the second occasion that DH had to run me urgently to the hospital but she has refused to look after DS both times claiming that "well no one cares about or runs about after me when I am ill" and basically saying i should suck it up and deal with it by myself

I am feeling really fed up and just hope it will all be over soon I was discharged this morning will be having a scan this week and i am really hoping that everything has passed otherwise i guess i am looking at an ERPC...

[jimijack]

Bloody shit isn't it.
Similar thing here except dh had to stay home with our ds so I was totally alone in the hospital. Pil were never interested.

I used to take myself off to the hospital as the pain was similar to Labour, I needed gas &air and morphine for about 12 hours until it had all passed.
I had 7 in all. Each one horrific.
Sympathies my friend,

[PossibiliTea]

it's so horrible I'm sorry it's not right you have been by yourself it's hard enough as it is. I'm sure by the time your scan comes you will be a little better (physically) just take it one day at a time.

We are all here with you in a way!

[ForeverHopeful21]

I know exactly what you mean; I had no idea what the reality of a miscarriage entailed until I had one. It's just shit.
I'm 4 weeks on and physically I'm still not myself - I'm exhausted all the time, I'm struggling to work, I have flashbacks, my bowls are playing up!!
Your MIL sounds like she has no idea what you've been through and what you're still going through so I'd try and take no notice. People who haven't been through it will never understand. My MIL is lovely but even she's dropped a few clangers ...3 days after my MC and she was saying how she longs for a grandchild!! WTF!

Can you talk to your DH? I've found that being 100% honest with my DH and telling him exactly how I feel, what I'm worried about, what I went through, has actually helped. Bit like therapy I guess. Talking helps and you can always offload on here. Don't try to be superwoman, take some time out and look after yourself xx