Back at work and struggling

[NW10teacher]

Hiya,

Today is my first day back at work (I'm a teacher) after mc last week. I'm a little surprised (and disappointed in myself!) by how much I've been struggling, physically and emotionally. First of all, I was totally knackered by about 10 am. But I also just felt weirdly teary and emotional all day. My OH and I are planning to try again and I hoped to just bounce back a bit more robustly this week. But it doesn't seem to be happening.

Any tips?

[Thingymaboob]

I miscarried in October 16. Only feel ready to ttc again now. So sorry for your loss.
I was exhausted! I took floradix which is fortified liquid iron with B vitamins. Love it! From holland and Barrett - I was anaemic I think. It helped me recover anyway. I also bought the biggest box of Ferraro rocher and scoffed the lot!

[BeccyButterfly]

Don't put too much pressure on yourself, your hormones will be all over the place at the mo. Take each day as it comes and over time u will feel better mentally and physically. x

[Wolfiefan]

Be gentle on yourself. I have had a mc and mmc whilst a teacher. It takes a while to recover physically (not to mention the emotional toll.) Look after yourself and take more time if you need it.
(Sorry if TMI but reading what I've written it sounds awful. I've also got two children now.)
Take care OP.
MC is shit and teaching is hard. Look after yourself.

[Nimisha]

Sorry to hear this, I saw your first thread. It took me 2 weeks to recover enough physically and emotionally from my miscarriage in October to go back to work.(mmc at 9 weeks, I had surgical management.) After a week I was still having cramps and bleeding.

I wanted to try again straight away but everyone is different. Look after yourself, be kind to yourself.

Even when you think your fine with it something will blindside you.

Take the opportunity to really look after yourself, don't worry about housework, have takeaways if you want, do something for you (for me yoga really helped on YouTube), maybe book a holiday so you have something to look forward to. Just give yourself the time and space to grieve.

I didn't realize how hard it would hit DH to, he describes feeling completely helpless, so gain strength from each other, though remember everyone copes in their own way and his may be different.

I was really surprised when I told people about my miscarriage how common it was. It's just not talked about. Big hugs, it's rubbish.

[WLMcI]

teacher I'm in a similar boat to you, and I would say take time off if you think you need it. There's nothing to feel guilty about; grief has stages! You're also working with children presumably, and the demands they make are--well, demanding.

I had my first day back yesterday after a diagnosis of missed miscarriage on Thursday, then a "natural" miscarriage on Saturday. Nothing natural about it, it was awful. I went straight back to work after my normally scheduled days off this weekend as I thought "I'll only feel like an invalid if I stay in the house, it'll only feed depression, the distraction will help, etc etc." although actually what I wanted was to curl up in bed. I think it was too soon. Although I felt OK at the start of the day yesterday, by tea break time I was finding it exhausting too. I'm on my feet a good bit of the day in a public-facing tourism job (although nothing as full-on as teaching), so I think that's all a factor in how you react physically. I told all of my colleagues about the MC, and they are very supportive (some of them have been there too and have been open about sharing that), so that was a positive outcome. But I'm still having to "fake it" all day for the public, as you are for your students. It's hard, physically and emotionally. Luckily yesterday wasn't busy, but I'm not sure how I'll cope with the weekend shifts. Now I just feel like hibernating and I'm considering taking more time off, but feeling guilty as I know they are short staffed and I hate changing my mind on them at short notice--I thought I was ready and that the distraction would help! This is all so unpredictable, isn't it?

Anyway, this boat is a shit boat. Xx