We were blissfully happy and adored eachother and our lives as they were. Things were bloody wonderful. I had been with my amazing partner for seven sweet months before we were surprised with a pregnancy that (although shocked us to begin with) filled us with even more joy and hope and excitement for our future together as a family.
It all ended in complete and utter devastation when the sonographer told us there was no heartbeat at 9 weeks.
I wanted to try again, we did. We lost another.
I wanted to try again, DP said no.
After moving to a new, bigger house which was supposed to house our new family, and now my eldest DS is at secondary school, we do not have enough income left to raise another child.
I am now in a deep dark hole, I hate life, I hate what I've become; Bitter, insanely jealous at any pregnant woman who crosses my path, terribly depressed and a misery around everyone, I don't want to go out and have fun like I used to, I don't want to do anything, I cry all the time. I don't know who the fuck I am anymore.
Why did this happen? We were perfectly happy with the way things were going. Not even contemplating another child.
And now I want another child more than anything in the whole world. My whole body aches with yearning.
Its our due date for our lovely little surprise on Saturday. We should be meeting her on Saturday via elective c-section. So many 'should be's'.
I've had to hide all the pregnancy related thrads on MN and hide pregnant friends and family on FB. Its pointless though becasueI can't hide people in the street or on the train. I can't hide all the other threads that talk about pregnancy as its not limited to one topic.
I want my life back. I'm going to counselling in October but I feel like I'm being forced to do this to try and get over my desire for another child. I don't want to get over it. I just want to keep trying for my rainbow that every other miscarriage sufferer seems to be able to do
The baby's room in our new house is now referred to as the 'Spare room'. It's not! It's our baby's room FFS.
I'm just so fucking angry that our blissful life has been destroyed. I'd finally met the man of my dreams after 6 years as a single parent. I was finally happy. But no. How dare I be happy.
Have that Frazzle, you don't deserve happiness.
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FrazzleRock · 21/09/2016 13:23
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