miscarriage at 42

[Summertime14]

Hi, I really don't know where to start on this. I had an abortion when I was 40. I thought I didn't want a child, my partner and I had been through a bad year together and the 'timing wasn't right'. Looking back, I panicked, we are financially in a good position etc. I took the first abortion pill, regretted it. Never took the second, but had a miscarriage (but really it was an abortion, because if I hadn't took the pill, I may never have miscarried). I was devastated. 2 months ago, I became pregnant again, this time planned. I miscarried 2 days ago. I now know at 42 this was my last chance. I HATE myself for taking the abortion tablet at my first pregnancy, I feel that this miscarriage is payback for what I did.

[marmiteontoast76]

Please don't blame yourself, the miscarriage is not your fault. Miscarriage is something like 1 in 4 so sadly very common. Did it take you long to conceive this time? It's not your last chance. There are lots of women having their first in their early 40s.

Sorry for your loss and sending big hugs.

[SurferJet]

So sorry you're hurting at the moment, but please please don't think the m/c was anything other than nature taking its course ( & at 42 the m/c rate is quite high ) having said that, I know a few women who have babies well into their 40's so it's certainly not your ' last chance' - & wrt to the 1st pregnancy, you did what was right for you at the time, please don't beat yourself up with guilt - you've done nothing to feel guilty about.
with love x

[EllieJayJay]

Please don't blame yourself it's not your fault it is just that nature can be very cruel.

I had a miscarriage on Monday am utterly devastated have blamed myself but really none of this is our fault X

Sending you hugs xx