This is probably more of a releasing rant at the "unfairness of life" and feeling very sorry for myself but I'm struggling to get myself together right now and needed to write it down.
I have 2 beautiful children, DD is nearly 7 and DS nearly 6. A year after DS was born I discovered I had CIN3 and had treatment and LLETZ done.
Last year I unexpectedly fell pregnant with DS2, He was due Feb 7 and while unplanned I was happy... then the little niggling problems started. I had unexplained bleeding at 7 weeks, 11 weeks and 16 weeks. Each time I was told they couldn't find a cause, my cervix was fine and so was baby. At my 20 week scan I was told all was perfect and he was doing great. My waters broke 5 days later, I went into labour 4 days after and 48 hours after it started my Son Phoenix was born, at 22 1/2 weeks.
My labour was badly handled. I was put at the end of the ward with all the new mothers. In a separate room but so I had to walk past them all. I was left for 2 days with no sleep, no pain relief and knowing my son wouldn't survive the birth because although my contractions were every 4 minutes it wasn't "established labour so you never know, it might stop" (seriously!?) The final 3 hours when I dilated to 4cm they finally moved me to the labour ward and gave me some pain relief. He didn't take a breath but I got to hold him. I think the physical trauma of this has been nearly as hard for me to deal with as the emotional loss.
They said my bloods and placenta tests came back showing indicators of a severe infection that could have caused the membrane to weaken. My only argument with this theory being it still doesn't explain the abnormal bleeding throughout my pregnancy.
A year later... I am pregnant again. Unplanned, unexpected and I am terrified. I am 9 weeks today, due 7th Feb again (I don't even know where to start with my feelings on this! good!? bad!? I don't know) and already I'm experiencing bleeding. My midwife has referred me to a consultant but I'm worried they wont take my cervix concerns seriously/monitor for it as they decided it must be due to infection.
I feel depressed and lost. I am so scared, I can't stop crying. I keep trying to put on a brave face, tell everyone that I'm doing ok. I'm trying to stay strong for my kids but I don't know how I am going to get through the next few months and I really can't go through that again... I need a hug.
Sorry for the rant and thank you for providing a place I feel I could do so.
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Pregnant again after late loss and not coping well - bit of a rant
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freakythingy · 05/07/2015 21:25
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