Friend miscarraige

[Raedd1234]

Hi,

My friend has recently miscarried for the 2nd time. It took her a long time to live with the 1st miscarriage 5 years ago and this time, she (naturally) is finding it even harder. I don't know how to help or what to say. All I can do is be there and listen but I wish i could do more.
Ive been wanting to get her something to help her and to represent her loss maybe but I'm struggling as to what!
I've thought about a plant, but it would need to be a fairly small one that she could take with her when she moves house. I have no idea on plants either and I think it'd hurt her even more if it died too.
I'm wondering if anyone can help me on ideas? What have you recieved? What helped?
Thanks

[babyangelbean20315]

I have a rose, in a flower pot - lovely thing to remember with, I think anything u do say/give to her will help a lot and she will appreciate it

[toomuchtooold]

I wonder if she might appreciate a donation to Bliss or the Miscarriage Association? I would have appreciated that after my MCs, although to be honest you're already worth your weight in gold just for being willing to talk with her about it.

[mistbecomingrain]

So hard to know as everyone is different

I would have liked someone to call over to me with a big box of chocolates and let me know they wanted to listen to me - and just let me talk about it.

[Raedd1234]

Thanks everyone. I kept coming back to a flower so I went for a yellow orchid (she didn't know the sex, so seemed appropriate colour!) she really, really appreciated it and liked it.
I think the donation is a really good idea as well. I know that's something she would appreciate and for every person who has gone through similar so I'm definitely going to donate to both those charities you have mentioned today. Xx