Friend miscarraige

(5 Posts)
Raedd1234 Sat 23-May-15 00:43:55

Hi,

My friend has recently miscarried for the 2nd time. It took her a long time to live with the 1st miscarriage 5 years ago and this time, she (naturally) is finding it even harder. I don't know how to help or what to say. All I can do is be there and listen but I wish i could do more.
Ive been wanting to get her something to help her and to represent her loss maybe but I'm struggling as to what!
I've thought about a plant, but it would need to be a fairly small one that she could take with her when she moves house. I have no idea on plants either and I think it'd hurt her even more if it died too.
I'm wondering if anyone can help me on ideas? What have you recieved? What helped?
Thanks

babyangelbean20315 Sat 23-May-15 16:15:56

I have a rose, in a flower pot - lovely thing to remember with, I think anything u do say/give to her will help a lot and she will appreciate it

toomuchtooold Sat 23-May-15 22:46:59

I wonder if she might appreciate a donation to Bliss or the Miscarriage Association? I would have appreciated that after my MCs, although to be honest you're already worth your weight in gold just for being willing to talk with her about it.

mistbecomingrain Sat 23-May-15 23:37:49

So hard to know as everyone is different

I would have liked someone to call over to me with a big box of chocolates and let me know they wanted to listen to me - and just let me talk about it.

Raedd1234 Sun 24-May-15 15:34:45

Thanks everyone. I kept coming back to a flower so I went for a yellow orchid (she didn't know the sex, so seemed appropriate colour!) she really, really appreciated it and liked it.
I think the donation is a really good idea as well. I know that's something she would appreciate and for every person who has gone through similar so I'm definitely going to donate to both those charities you have mentioned today. Xx

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