re-scan today, definitely mmc

[gingerbreadmam]

hi

i finally had my re-scan today after a 2 week wait. nothing has changed so unfortunately baby stopped growing at 5 weeks. i would have been 11 weeks pregnant today.

my hospital have been working to new guidelines for the last 4 months and prefer to let things happen naturally unless reallu dont want to do that. i am quite happy with that as i really didnt want the meds (know its different but went with a friend when they didnt want a baby and she had a bad time and it really scared me) and i had saw somewhere the surgical option can cause scarring and as this is my first pregnancy i definitely dont want that.

anyway the sonographer i saw todag was lovely and informative and has made me feel comfortable with what is to come, i just wondered what the bleeding was like after you passed the sac? how many pads say per hour? i know it will be different for everyone.

the reason i ask is my dp has 2 days off next week and we r hoping to go to edinburgh for 2 nights. the nurse said it would be ok but obviously i dont know what to expect. i am hoping i miscarry before then and get it over and done with but wondered if the bleeding would be manageable for me if i were away.

[onefootinthebed]

Hi

I was just reading your other thread which I posted on, I had my rescan today also. But as I have been rescanned in 4 days they want to leave it and rescan in a week.its just so hard isn't it.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I have have miscarried twice this year and I didn't go through pads per hour it was just like a really horrible heavy period I was extremely tired after

[onefootinthebed]

Sorry

Afterward.

On a lighter not I've been to Edinburgh and loved it. Enjoy .

[gingerbreadmam]

aww thank you onefoot.

that does seem a quick turn around for a scan, my hospitals standard was 2 weeks. was a long wait but tbh in the end it ws a good amount of time to get my head round things.

the sonographer said today baby should grown 1mm per day so you wouldnt see much difference after just a few days plus surely not all babys grow at the standard rate? i hope that everything works out for you sounds like youve already experienced a lot of heartache so i truly hope this one brings a little bit of happiness.

that doesnt sound so bad and manageable. me and my dp love christmas and have been to edinburgh the past two years at christmas time which is just beautiful, this year we werent going to as we have recently moved in together and cant really afford it but i think it will do us good and help us get past this a little bit.

in a way its a horrible time of year for this to happen but in another way at least theyre are lots of distractions we definitely need those right now. thank you for your response thats helpful.

[Shockingundercrackers]

So sorry to hear you are going through this. When I had my mmc there was a lot of bleeding and it was a quite painful at times. I didn't pass the sac for a long time (two weeks after the bleeding started), so far me it was a very long process. I'm very glad I didn't cancel my travel plans (I wore a pad and sat on a plastic bag for a 6 hour drive) as it didn't cause any major problems with bleeding or anything like that. I didn't really feel myself until I passed the sac (in itself, not as gruesome as I feared it would be). I felt fine afterwards. That said, I'm sure every MC is different so trust your own instincts about what you can manage and what you can't. Stock up on pads, co-codamol and whatever treats you need to get through this.

[gingerbreadmam]

thanks for sharing your experience shocking. were only about 3 half hours from edinburgh so not the worst drive anyway just when we are there we will be out and about a lot and i wouldnt like to get there then not be able to do that.

sounds like you went through a long and horrible time so sorry for that.

it has made me feel a bit better that passing the sac wsnt as scary as expected because that has been on my mind.

thank you.

[Shockingundercrackers]

Don't worry, it will all be alright. It's horrible and brutal and so so unfair, but you will cope with it ginger. Be kind to yourself. Xxx

[gingerbreadmam]

thank you soo much has really helped me. also just thinking edinburgh my be a possibility brings a bit of a smile to my face on what has been a sad day.

cant wait to get cracking again has made me realise just how much i want to be a mam now.

[gingerbreadmam]

i think i will feel similar once it starts. i never thought about maternity pads just got always night time ones at the moment, not sure if they will do it?

i hope you are ok. at least once the worst has passed you can start to move on from it. are you thinking of trying again or is it to soon to think about that?

my nurse today told me you are super fertile for the first 4 / 5 months following a mc.

i hope u r ok and hope my questions arent too insensitive i am just thinking ahead to ttc already for something positive to think about.

[fromwesttoeast]

Sorry it's not the outcome you were hoping for Ginger. Don't worry, the mc may take time but hopefully won't be too bad.

[bakingtins]

ginger I'm sorry you've had a MMC confirmed. Even if you were prepared for the worst it's horrible to have the last vestige of hope removed. Were you offered medical management? (taking pills/pessaries to induce a miscarriage) If you have had six-ish weeks of your body continuing to support a pregnancy that is not developing it's hard to predict when you will actually miscarry (though sometimes when your mind is certain it's over the body can let go) and it's difficult to be in a situation of having that hanging over you with no control when it starts. If you prefer to avoid surgery maybe you should consider medical management and getting it over with so you can not be worried about it whilst you are away?

[gingerbreadmam]

my hospital are following newly released guidelines that reccomend no intervention. i think if i had fought for it they would have given it but i am open to natural tbh. i didnt like the sound of the op and never actually had an op before and i know its different circumstances but i went as support for a friend who had a termination and she had a bad time with blood loss etc so that scared me too.

would be nice to know it was all over but i am hoping you are right and now that my mind accepts it and has seen proof my body will take over.

the hospital did say if nothing happened in 2 weeks to give them a call and then we would consider medical management.

[gingerbreadmam]

oh and my scan showed that although everything was intact and no internal bleeds or anything the sac had moved towards the middle of my womb and lower down so looking like it is on the way out.

[gingerbreadmam]

aww well that is something for you to look forward to at least. it is hard thinking about seeing the scan im sure and men deal with things so differently.

maybe once its all over he will feel better about it. are yous talking abit more now?

my dp is a bit blase about it all, glad we found out when 'it wasnt really anything' they just cant feel like we do. luckily though he really wants to try again so that is something for us to look forward to.

i have bought maternity pads and more night pads today so feel prepared now. hope my body recognises it now too.

i had a sneaky look on the ttc board today and will join when its happened. thank you.

[gingerbreadmam]

ha im sure you can too.

i know it may be a bit annoying just try and enjoy the fussing why it lasts take advantage of it a bit

glad hes better. i think its good in a way to be more it was never meant to be. i have days like that and days where i think why me but now i know its definitely happening i feel lots better. hope it goes smoothly too. thanks so much. if you need to chat more ive become a bit of a mn addict whilst ive been off with this so post away.