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Waiting is so awful - I feel so lost

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wonkylegs Fri 14-Nov-14 14:07:32

Went last week to EPU after bleeding not loads but more than I was comfortable with. Was scanned - supposed to be 11wks but measured small (6wks) too small for them to tell if it was ok or not. Both external & internal scan done but not clear enough for them to say either way.
I have to go for another scan next Friday but it doesn't look good. DH is a dr (not obstetrics) and he said the scan wasn't good.
Everybody who knows tells me to keep busy but I can't. I feel in such a limbo. I work from home and I just can't concentrate. I just sat in front of the computer in a daze for 30mins.
It doesn't help that I still have MS, and it being a 2nd pregnancy I already have a small bump.
I just want to curl up in bed and go to sleep until next Friday
I just don't know how to keep going, taking DS to and from school & chatting about lego/maths/etc is the only thing keeping me upright, the rest of the time I just don't want to think or feel.

Shockingundercrackers Fri 14-Nov-14 14:14:40

Oh sweet, I can't not answer. I wish so much there was something to say that would help. I've been in your shoes three times and so I know how hard it is, the terrible pause whilst the world spins gaily on and you wait and wait for a scan. It's just too cruel.

Keep yourself hugged. Take time off, have a bath, think your thoughts. Watch dumb TV, go for walks... do what ever you need to do. This is hard, don't make it any harder by trying to do anything much. This is about you staying together until you know what will happen to you and your pregnancy.

Sending you much strength to get through the next week. thanks

sizethree Fri 14-Nov-14 17:01:11

I echo the lovely message from crackers. I can't add to it as it's perfect, but just want to let you know that you'll be in my thoughts. Big hugs.

wonkylegs Fri 14-Nov-14 18:30:04

Thank you. Your messages made me cry but in a good way.

GuybrushThreepwoodMP Sat 15-Nov-14 05:33:54

I am in exactly the same situation. I am sure miscarriage is inevitable for me because scan showed 6 weeks (should have been 9) and I am sure of my dates. Still no signs of it actually happening.
The waiting is so awful. I just want it to be over.
Holding your hand wonky.

Belleende Sat 15-Nov-14 08:30:32

The waiting and the limbo is by far the suckiest part of this. I found having fairly mindless things to do helped. Spent a fortune on candy sugar crush. Also discovered mumsnet classics threads, great for whiling away a few hours. Watched a lot of box sets (also known as illegally downloading anything I could get my hands on). Mild exercise did help but I found it really hard to motivate myself. I did turn to the wine during the waiting for one mc, but I don't recommend overindulging, just made everything ten times worse the next day. Also plan something nice for the future, a nice meal out or a holiday perhaps, remind yourself there is life beyond this.
This time feels like dead time, and I don't think anything will change that, all you can do is be kind to yourself and let others be kind to you.
Sending you both hugs amd strength. Xx

wonkylegs Sat 15-Nov-14 20:36:17

Guybrush sorry to hear your going through the same thing
Thanks for the hand holding
I told my dad as he phoned and wondered why I sounded so flat, I ended up bursting into tears. He was so fab and has phoned everyday and just talked shite to me just to check on me and keep me occupied for an hour.
Haven't told my mum (divorced) as she has no empathy and has a tendency to say upsetting things without meaning to, I usually need full emotional strength to deal with her.

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