Missed Miscarriage-surgical management tomorrow

[0mia0]

I found out on Tuesday at my 12 week scan that the baby no longer had a heart beat, I am having surgical management tomorrow. I am a little bit nervous and am wondering what I should take with me? I am thinking a book and some pads. Do I need to take PJs and slippers? I was told I should be able to leave a couple of hours after, was this the case for you if you have also experienced this?

[jbee1979]

I'm so sorry for your loss - I went through the same thing and had the ERPC on 7th March.

I was a wreck - I couldn't think what to pack. I wore jeans & a hoodie - I took PJs and wash bag with me - they recommend that in case you have to stay.

I wouldn't have had the attention span for a book - I played games on my phone as a distraction and wished I'd brought my charger!

I didn't need pads - I bought loads, brought 2 with me, they gave me one in recovery, it was completely clean, I wore it home - I didn't even need to change it.

They got me into a gown when I arrived about 7am - op was scheduled for 9.15 - but it was delayed by a bit because I absentmindedly popped a piece of chewing gum in my mouth on the way into the hospital (nil by mouth)!!! I was furious with myself - but I was scared and my mouth was dry - it was a reflex reaction...

I was out of theatre for about 11 and I was in a lot of pain and they gave me morphine - so they kept me in recovery for a bit longer to make sure I didn't have a reaction.

I had tea and toast when I went back to the ward - I had to wait more for the surgeon to debrief me, various nurses with leaflets, the pharmacist with painkillers for home. I asked about 2pm if I could go home, rang my dad and left - I told them he was outside... I just wanted air!

That night I could have done anything - I was exhilarated (morphine). The following day was BAD - I woke up crying, pain, devastation... I was a mess. Don't expect too much of yourself - you might be fine, but don't beat yourself up for feeling bad on top of everything else.

Be kind to yourself - I'll be thinking about you tomorrow. Don't hesitate to PM me or message back on this thread if you have questions or need anything

[Erica21]

Hi Mia,
I had exactly the same happen to me four weeks ago, no HB at dating scan. I was booked for surgical management but had MC at home whilst waiting. Still had the ERPC which to be honest was a relief that everything would start to heal more quickly. My hospital only do 2-3 ERPC's a day, so arrived at 7.30 and was in surgery at 9, came back to room for 9.50 and was home by 12.30. I found the procedure pain-free, the anaesthetic left me feeling quite chatty afterwards, and I coped with only ibuprofen afterwards for some mild cramping. My hubbje was with me for company, will you have a partner with you? Take some comfy stretchy trousers and a warm jumper for your journey home. Take a normal toilet bag in case you need to shower, but to be honest, there was barely any bleeding afterwards, and I didn't need any large pads just some normal always type pads for the bleeding afterwards. I did have small amounts of dark brown blood for about 7-10 days, but enough for a liner, nothing more. They got me some tea and toast and made me have a wee before taking out the cannula and sending me home. Send me a message if you need to ask anything more. Hope it helps, sorry for your loss xx