Miscarriage at 8 weeks: what a terrible week I've had.

[Tessa617]

I started spotting last Tuesday - I thought I was 10 weeks but I got a scan later that day that measured the fetus at 6 weeks with no heart beat. My OB gave me 3 options: (1) pass it naturally, (2) take Cytotec and pass it at home, (3) have a D&C. I went with option 2 and took the medicine Wed AM. Bleeding got heavy Wed afternoon and by the evening I was feeling very lightheaded and dizzy. I called my OB and they said I could go to the ER if I was worried (but they didn't really urge me to go) so we stayed home mainly because it was late and we have no family nearby to watch the kids (4 and 1.5). Thursday I was still bleeding and very weak, Friday I thought I was getting better - bleeding was still heavy but manageable. I called my OB again later in the day and they suggested I come to the office Sat to get checked. Saturday I went in and the exam showed there were still big clots and "some tissue" retained. The on-call OB offered to try and clear the tissue, he tried but I was a bit scared and feeling like I was going to pass out so he sent me to the ER where my OB was on shift. There they drew blood and the exam showed that I still hadn't passed the gestational sac so I was scheduled for an emergency D&C. Meanwhile my blood work came back showing my hematocrit was down to 20 (normal is 40). No wonder I was feeling so awful. I got 2 units of blood, morphine for a terrible headache and the D&C was done that afternoon. I got out that evening and I've been doing OK since then. I've been very tired. I'm on iron tablets and I get blood drawn tomorrow to check how I am doing. I've been so focussed on the physical side of things I haven't thought much about much else. I am keen to TTC ASAP. I think this should be a lesson on how NOT to have a miscarriage! It was truly awful but I know I will get better.

[EthelredOnAGoodDay]

Hi Tessa, so sorry to hear you've had such an awful week. There are quite a few threads in here for those of us who have been through similar experiences. You will probably be relieved, in a strange way, to find you are not on your own. Sending you a big hug.

[lola4lee]

Sorry for your loss Tessa.
What a horrible week for you, I hope u feel physically better soon xxx

[FoofFighterYNWAJFT96]

I'm so sorry that you've had to go through this and that you lost your baby , it's an awful thing, have you got some emotional support?


wishing you all the luck in the world with your TTC :) What do the doctor's recommend where you are re: when to start ttcing after a miscarriage?

[Tessa617]

I am feeling a bit better now - the office drew blood yesterday and I am back to 31 for my hematocrit. I am quite run down - have a bad cough and a very sore throat (let's hope it's not strep). DH has been great - I am really fed up with not being able to do much still. And as for TTC: after surgery my OB recommended waiting one cycle. I see him on Monday to have a less post-anaesthesia muddled conversation. I think we should start practicing soon. One positive thing to come out of this is my DS (19m) is now weaned because DH had to look after the kids while I was so weak. I wanted to wean him, just didn't want it done this way. Poor guy knows there's something missing but he can't quite remember what it is!

[FoofFighter]

Your immune system can take a while to get back upto speed after it being reduced in pregnancy, I have read. I had a stinking cold/chest thing just after i got my BFP and I've got another starting now, 2 weeks post mc.

Maybe boost up with some extra vitamin C and Echinacea?

Over here the advice I have had for TTCing again ranges from when you feel ready, three cycles, 6 cycles. We're going for the not actively obsessively ttc but just not using protection and will see what happens.

[Tessa617]

Well my sore throat never came to anything. It might be allergies because I had sinus pain last night. Anyway, I am drinking echinacea echinaechae herbal tea, taking multivitamins and iron. OB is quite adamant to wait for 1 period before trying again but he says I am very fertile (yay!) for my age (boo!). We will try again in May!