confused and sad

[sarahbanks]

Hi, sorry for rambling, I am hoping I can get some advice and support here.

I went to Dr on Tuesday to discuss period issues and the fact that we have failed to concieve our second child after 7 months trying. She did blood tests including pregnancy and on wednesday I found out I was pregnant.

I started spotting on 28 Feb, and had heaving bleeding with clots on 2/3 March - all of which I assumed was my period. Since then I've had everything from spotting, pink/brown jelly like discharge and light bleeding with pain (sorry if too much information). Pregnancy hadn't even crossed my mind but Wednesday we were so happy.

Yesterday I went to epu for checks and my hcg has fallen from 289 on tues to 177 yesterday so was told (after a 3 hour wait) that the pregnancy wasn't viable and I needed to discuss tests for infection and stis. I was distraught and made to feel like I was in the wrong for being upset. I just needed to get out of there but they wouldn't let me leave until I'd made an appointment to go back for another hcg check on monday.

I have no information as to what to expect now, what has happened and don't even know how far pregnant I was. I can't stop crying and my three year old keeps asking me why i'm scaring her. How do you cope with this? when does the bleeding stop? What is the point of more blood tests on monday? and why don't they offer some counselling or emotional support?

I may have only known I was pregnant for a few hours but I've still lost my baby and am devastated

[lola4lee]

Oh you poor thing im so sorry for your loss.
Of course your upset, that would have been such a happy moment after 7 months of ttc.
You have every right to be upset, sometimes the professionals forget how it must feel as maybe never been thru it and they see it so much but they should be a bit more sensitive.
I can't really give too much advice as not sure how far you were etc.
You really need to try and find out details from doctors etc.
Are u still bleeding if so, I would imagine they are going to let it takes it's course and continue naturally (not sure how long can last mine tend to be long periods usually 10 days or so)
If you are not still bleeding they may give u a choice of medical or surgical intervention. Medical is a tablet they give you to bring on mc (never had this so not sure of details but it can take a while and isn't always completely successful) Surgical is a General Anaesthetic to remove all that remains in your womb (pro's for this is once done it is over and you can start again)
I dont know if this has helped.
Take care of yourself and have a relaxing weekend.
xx

[firefli]

Really sorry for your loss. It sounds like you've been on a real emotional rollercoster over the past week, with everything happening so quickly.

I agree you need to talk to your doctor to find out what's happening in your case. I can tell you what I've experienced, but don't know if it's relevant for you. I had a natural mc last week - I should have been 8 wks but when scanned after bleeding / cramping there was no baby there. I've been back and forth to the hospital for several blood tests as my HCG levels were slow in coming down. The key thing they seemed to be concerned about was an eptopic pregnancy. Although they had scanned to check, since they hadn't been able to confirm a pregnancy in the womb there was still a risk. They thought it was more likely I still had some 'active tissue' retained in the womb. Not sure, but guess if that hadn't come away naturally and my HCG levels come down they would have had to move on to medical / surgical options. In terms of bleeding, it's not been two weeks yet and the bleeding is definately tailing off. At the hospital they indicated it could take about 3 weeks for the bleeding to stop.

I hope you meet with someone more sympathetic on Monday who can give you the information and the emotional support you deserve.

[sarahbanks]

Thank you for your lovely comments, I went back to my GP today and she was great, has arranged for them to handle everything now so I don't have to go back to epu and she's also arranging a TV scan to try to see if there is anything that could have called this.

Feel a lot better in some ways for having spoken to someone nice, now to deal with the crying!

Sorry for both of your losses xx