I've just found out the heart breaking news that I've miscarried at 9 wks+3. I had started bleeding a week ago, only very lightly though, but had read enough on here and other sites that any bleeding should be checked out at the Drs.
I am so glad I went to the drs last week, eventhough everyone was trying to be positive by saying it was perfectly "normal" to bleed (eventhough I know quite a few women that hadn't bled at all during pregnancy). I'm glad I ignored their advice and went to the Drs anyway. I was sent for an early scan which showed that its heartbeat was very slow. We received no reassurance from the sonographer and neither she nor the Dr at the hospital told us to expect the worst. Whilst I was prepared for the worst by boyfriend certainly wasn't. However, we went home feeling like we were in limbo, not knowing if everything was going to be ok. But I knew deep down that something was wrong.
We went for our last scan yesterday to find that the heartbeat had stopped. Whilst everyone was lovely and very understanding, we had to wait at the hospital for a further 3.5hrs, waiting to see nurses/drs, at one point we were left in a waiting room next to the new born baby ward, it was torture.
I decided to take the medication but now I'm worried that along with the emotional anguish of losing my baby, that I am now going to find the remains of my baby on my sanitary towel or in the loo. So I'm now thinking of asking for a D&C when we go back to the hospital tomorrow.
Can anyone let me know their experiences of this? Would you recommend it? Did you have any problems trying to get pregnant after having the op? How long were you out of action after the op? Were you in much pain afterwards?
I'm already having the week off, but I'm guessing it will take me much longer to get over this mentally.
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Just had a miscarriage at 9wks+3 . D&C or medication?
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Firstbabyjoy · 06/08/2011 15:13
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